Hey Loves and Welcome Back to Joi’s Journey of Perception!

Yes, you read that title right! Having just celebrated my 27th birthday, I am eager to see what this new chapter holds! What I usually do is compile a list of things I have learned through the years, and that is exactly what you are getting today! In which, I’ll link below.

When I tell a lot of people about my experiences, they laugh at first, but in the end, they are appreciative of my guidance. Consider what my future children will take away from my blunders. But I’m getting ahead of myself.

Let’s Get Started

1. Sometimes You Outgrow People

Just because friendships and relationships are so precious to me, I am still learning this first piece of advice. But this year has taught me that although I’ve grown up with someone, I can’t always take them into the next chapter with me. I want to keep friendships with people I’ve known since birth, but it’s like watering a dead plant.🌱 I have nothing against them but it kind of sucks how I was treated by them. But you know what they say Vaya con Dios!

2. Therapy is Not Bad

I told you guys about my experience with therapy and how it’s been going. And it was honestly one of the best decisions that I made. Imagine being able to talk to someone without feeling them judging you and looking down on you. It’s more of a way to lay out your inner thoughts so you can put them together in a correct way and come up with a solution for your problems in a healthy way. I promise you guys the other alternative is talking to toxic people about your problems, online shopping, drugs, and so many more toxic things. So if you haven’t checked out that post I will link it below.

My Experience with Therapy

3. Be Your Biggest Supporter

If you own a business or do something you are passionate about. You learn that the individuals you believed would support you don’t, while the people you didn’t expect to support you do. And that is a difficult lesson to learn. Even if you put in your best effort, those folks will be watching you or sitting in the corner hating. As a result, I’ve had to learn that I need to be my biggest cheerleader, even if that means I’m my only cheerleader. I do what I enjoy and receive daily support from individuals I don’t even know. For that, I’d like to express my gratitude to all of you who continue to read my posts!

4. I was Put on this Earth for a Reason

It’s inevitable that you’ll occasionally question what’s the point of life. However, I think I have found what my purpose on this earth has been during these rough times of crying. A lot of people have told me that I have helped them with their confidence and being who they truly are. In spite of the fact that I don’t even know what I’m doing, that means a lot to me. For a while, as a child, I struggle with confidence because of society’s standard of beauty. But after realizing my true word and what I offer. I have learned to fall in love with a light and myself regardless if no one else appreciates it. So if that’s what I was put on this earth for I am glad that I was playing here to do it.

5. Differentiate between triggers and overthinking.

My overthinkers can connect to this! I’ve had a number of folks play mind games with me in the past. It did not feel nice to be subjected to emotional abuse. It would also prohibit me from meeting true nice individuals for a long. Because previous triggers had me believing that everyone was like that. So, my advice to you is to practice on distinguishing between triggers and overthinking. Your thinking can be your worst adversary at times. This section will be obvious to those who are familiar with the subject.

6. Break those Soulties

You guys don’t understand how much a soul-tie will prevent you from healing and moving on. I just broke a Salti with someone I genuinely cared about in the past and it kept me stagnant for so long. I didn’t want any interactions with anyone else for quite a while. But I decided to do the work and actually put effort into cutting the tie and moving on. For those are you who do not know what a soul tie is I will put the definition down below.

soul ties

A spiritual/emotional connection you have to someone after being intimate with them, usually engaging in sexual intercourse. To the point that when you want to be rid of them from your mind and your life, even when you are far away from them and out of their presence you still feel as if they are a part of you and a part of you is with them, causing you to feel unwhole as if you’ve given up some of yourself intangible that cannot be easily possessed again.

I also will be doing a post about it so be sure to read it. Break those ties!

There is Nothing Wrong with Having Feelings

Society is changing and they are trying to normalize not having feelings. I was talking to one of my mentors about my last situation and she asked me if I ever expressed my feelings to him. I sat there quiet because I didn’t. She was like “Joi!!!” At the moment, I knew I was emotionally unavailable. I had some work to do. Liking someone is a part of the journey and it’s okay to show emotions. They may not always be reciprocated but you’re human.

Hope Breeds eternal Misery

Allow me to explain. There’s nothing wrong with hoping for the best. But don’t allow it go too far out of hand, and don’t put your faith in the wrong people. You will be disappointed a lot of the time.

Is that all? Don’t Leave us Hanging!

My time on this planet has taught me many lessons, but I cannot possibly fit all of them into this post. One, that’s too much for one. Two, that should be enough to persuade you to follow me. This blog focuses on a series of topics about my life journey. You do not want to miss out!

Thank you Again

To those who wanted to get me anything for my birthday. I accept anything. Donations and purchases of my EBook are appreciated.