People pleasing can be a way of life for some people. They don’t like to make decisions, and they want to please everyone in their life. The problem with that is that it causes stress and burnout on the person who is doing all of this pleasing. It also makes them not take care of themselves because they’re trying to make everyone else happy instead. So let’s talk about how we can stop being “picky” or “needy” and start being happy!
Just because you want to please everyone (People pleasing) doesn’t mean you should.
You’re going to hear this a lot as you go through life: “Don’t be a people pleaser.” It’s an easy thing to say, but hard to follow. The idea behind it is that if you’re trying to please everyone else by doing what they want and saying yes all the time. Then eventually no one will like you. Because no one can stand being around someone who says yes when they really don’t want to do anything at all!
The problem with following this advice is that if everyone’s happy with how things are going in your life (and let’s be honest. They probably aren’t), then why would anyone want anything different? You’ll end up giving up on yourself. Because everyone else has been so accommodating for so long now. That pretty soon even if something was important enough once upon a time…well…it just isn’t anymore!
You need to be real with the people around you
You need to be real with the people around you. Don’t be afraid to speak your mind and tell them what you think, even if it hurts their feelings.
Be honest about yourself. Even if it means hurting someone else’s feelings, being genuine will make for a stronger relationship in the long run.
Don’t be fake, either. You must learn how to say no when necessary and keep yourself from becoming too dependent on other people or things (like alcohol).
People will like you for who you really are
People will like you for who you really are. Don’t be afraid to be yourself, and don’t try to be someone else! You should also not pretend to be someone else or fit in with others.
Step back and think about who your real friends are
You know who your real friends are. They’re the ones who will be there for you when times are tough and they don’t have to be; they’ll listen to every word of your problems, give advice on how to fix them, and never judge you because of it. Your best friend is also the one person who can always understand what’s going on in your head better than anyone else. You might not think so right now but trust me: if everything was going perfectly well between us (and nothing ever goes perfectly. Then I would be able to tell everything about my innermost thoughts without hesitation!
Real friends keep their promises so even if something goes wrong or someone doesn’t live up to their end of an agreement (which happens), at least there’ll still be someone willing to put forth some effort toward keeping things afloat until we reach shore again.”
Put yourself first
Putting yourself first is a simple but powerful way to stay healthy. It’s also the only way you can truly be there for others, because if you take care of yourself, they’ll know that they can count on your support when they need it most.
This doesn’t mean that putting yourself first means ignoring everyone else in the world. It just means making sure that your needs come first before anyone else’s does. You might have heard this advice before: “Take care of yourself!” This applies especially when it comes to mental health; our brains are very delicate things and we need them to function properly if we want our lives to go well (and who wants a life without good memories?). So how do we do this? By being honest with ourselves about what makes us happy or sad, then acting accordingly whether those feelings are positive or negative ones based on reality rather than fantasy!
You don’t have to say yes all the time
You don’t have to say yes all the time. You can make your own decisions and choose what you want, especially when it comes down to saying no. If someone asks if they can borrow $200 dollars from you, and they don’t even pay it back? Then that is just a loan! If someone asks if they can borrow $200 dollars from you but then never pays it back? Again, this is not so much of a loan as much as an informal donation or favor granted at no cost (and often with negative consequences).
So why should we feel guilty about turning them down? We shouldn’t—and we shouldn’t let others guilt us into doing things we don’t want to do either! It’s our life; we get to decide how much time and energy goes into each activity based on what makes sense for us personally—not necessarily what everyone else wants from us all the time.”
Don’t take on burdens that aren’t yours. It’ll lead to burnout.
When you’re trying to help everyone, it’s easy to get overwhelmed. It’s also easy to feel like you need to do everything and everyone at once.
But if you’re taking on more than your fair share of responsibilities, you’ll end up feeling exhausted and burned out—and that means less time spent doing the things that matter most in life!
There are only so many hours in a day; if I try and take on too many burdens (like cooking meals for my family), I’ll end up burning myself out by neglecting other important tasks. Instead of putting all my energy into making dinner every night or preparing for upcoming events with friends/family members. (which would require even more effort). I could focus on becoming healthier by eating better food options or exercising regularly. Instead of overworking myself unnecessarily just because someone else asked me nicely enough!
Stop being a people pleaser, have opinions and make decisions.
- Don’t take on burdens that aren’t yours. This is a big one, and it’s something people often overlook when trying to be good friends. If you’re someone who likes to help out others, it can be easy for them to assume that everything is their responsibility and ask for help. Even when they don’t need it (or are just not ready). This can lead to resentment and frustration if they feel like they’re being blamed for things they didn’t do or weren’t prepared for at all!
- The best way around this is by saying no sometimes. Even if your friend asks again later down the road. And letting them know why this time wasn’t right for them (maybe there was too much work involved). It also helps if we talk about what makes sense from our point of view: “I know how much effort goes into making sure I have everything ready before my next presentation so I’m not holding up anyone else; however…
Make yourself important so that others know your effort is precious.
To be a good friend to yourself, it’s important that you treat yourself with kindness and respect. Don’t put yourself down or compare yourself with other people. You are important, so make sure others know this by being kind to yourself.
Be careful about setting boundaries for others. You don’t want them to think that they can take advantage of your kindness! Make time for yourself so that when people come around, they know how valuable their friendship is (and aren’t annoyed by finding themselves competing against someone else). Stop People pleasing.
If you’re a people pleaser, stop!
If you’re a people pleaser, stop!
Being a people pleaser means that you want to please everyone around you. You’re constantly trying to make sure that everyone likes you and feels comfortable with where they are in life. It could be their job, their home, or even their relationship with themselves. You don’t want anyone feeling like they aren’t good enough or worthy of acceptance by others. This can lead them down a path of self-doubt which ultimately makes them miserable and unhappy with themselves as well as others around them.
So what should someone who wants to stop being a people pleaser do? Let’s look at some tips:
- Learn how to say no if necessary – this includes saying no when offered something for free (unless it’s something that would benefit both parties), but also saying no if someone asks for more than what’s reasonable given the circumstances (for example: “I have plans tonight; let us hang out tomorrow instead”). Remember: there are always other options available!
Give yourself permission to be yourself and not try to please everyone. You will be happier, more successful, and have more meaningful relationships with those around you.