What have you learned in your life about love?

What I’ve learned in my life about love (Lessons in Love)

Lessons in Love

I’ve not been married yet, but I have fallen for someone, and I still don’t fully understand love. In fact, sometimes it feels like there are more questions than answers. But over the years, I’ve learned a few things about love that have helped me be happy with my journey in life.

Love is a commitment to a person, not an emotion.

Love is a choice, not a feeling.

It is loyalty to a person, not an emotion.

Love is putting someone else’s needs above your own when it hurts you to do so.

Love is vulnerable and active, not passive, in nature.

Love is loyalty.

Loyalty is a funny word. It seems like we use it to describe every relationship, but what does it really mean? If you’re loyal to someone, you are faithful to them and treat them with respect. You are steadfast in your commitment to them, even when things get rough. And most importantly, you don’t cheat on their heart—you never lie about who you are or what you want from life.

Love is putting yourself out for the sake of another person.

Love is putting yourself out for the sake of another person.

It’s being a good friend and doing something you don’t want to do for someone else.

It’s sacrificing your time and effort for someone else. Even if you know it will benefit them more than it does you.

It’s being there for someone in need, even when they don’t deserve it or ask you to be there.

It’s selfless. The ultimate act of love, knowing that to love without expecting anything in return is a beautiful thing indeed.

Love is vulnerable.

Love is vulnerable.

Love is a feeling, an emotion that has the power to make us feel alive and happy. Love is also a commitment to someone else’s feelings of happiness and well-being because you care about them and want to see them succeed in life, even if it means sacrificing your own desires for their sake. Love is an action. It’s something you do when you truly care about someone or something. You’d do anything for it, even if it goes against your personal feelings or desires at the time. Love can be a decision. A conscious choice made by two people who care deeply about each other and want to express their devotion through actions rather than words alone

Love is active, not passive.

You might be thinking: “I’ve been waiting for this all my life.” But let’s not go overboard. Passive love is still a valid way to express affection. It can be just as fulfilling and joyous as active love. It just doesn’t involve any effort beyond what you’d normally do for yourself. And in fact, I would argue that passive love is often more important than active love because it helps us feel good about ourselves, which makes us better people overall (more on that later).

All I’m saying here is that if your partner does something for you without asking or expecting anything in return (e.g., bringing home flowers), then that’s an example of passive love. If instead, they ask you how much money they should spend on the flowers before buying them and then do so after checking with you first (and maybe even getting permission from the florist), then that’s an example of active love.

Love means you’re with someone who makes you better.

• Love is not about being with someone who makes your life easier. It’s about being with someone who challenges you to grow and be better.
• Love means choosing the person who inspires you to be the best version of yourself, even when it means letting go of some of those things that used to make you happy.

You might have to give up something you love in order to love the other person.

When you’re in love, you might have to give up something you love in order to love the other person. You can’t expect others to change, but you can change yourself. If your partner has a passion for hiking and you don’t want to go hiking with them. Because it’s too boring for you. Then maybe the two of you shouldn’t get together. If one of your friends is always late for dinner dates and it’s making everyone else angry at him/her, then maybe it’s time that friend starts planning on getting places earlier so he/she won’t be late anymore.

You have to learn how to compromise and give up some of your own interests or hobbies—or at least put them on hold—for the sake of the relationship. Apart of the Lessons in Love.

You might learn that the people you love most don’t always make you happy, but they do make you a better person.

The definition of love is a tricky business, but I’ve learned that it isn’t necessarily about your feelings. Love is choosing to be with someone who makes you better and choosing to improve yourself for them. And while this might sound obvious. It is still possible to love someone who doesn’t make you happy every moment of every day.

Let me explain…

In order to have a happy relationship, you have to have self-respect and be with someone who respects you as well as loves you.

For example, if you’re with someone who doesn’t respect your time or needs, it will be difficult to have a healthy relationship. Similarly, if you don’t respect yourself enough to value your own needs and wants over others (which may come from childhood issues), then this lack of self-respect can affect all facets of your life.

You should be with someone who also has self-respect and respects you as well. Loving yourself is the key ingredient for having a happy relationship. Because it means that you are capable of loving another person without losing yourself in the process. Another one of the Lessons in Love.

Some things I’ve learned about love (Lessons in Love) that I’d like to share with others

• Love is a choice.
• Love is not a feeling or an emotion. But rather a commitment to another person above all else and in spite of any difficulties or problems you might face together.
• Some things about love are easy and natural; others are hard work (like picking up trash on the side of the highway).
• To love someone means that you have chosen them above all others. And will continue to choose them even when it seems like someone else would be better for you at that moment in time (like when they have their period).
• To love someone means taking care of them even when they’re being difficult or mean because somehow deep down inside. Beyond everything else about them, there’s still something good about them that makes you want to stay despite how awful they might be acting at the moment (like maybe just once every three months).

Conclusion

I hope that you find these lessons as useful and applicable as I have. If you’re looking for love, take them to heart. If not, let me know if there’s anything else I could’ve learned from my experiences!