10 Questions you need to be asking when SERIOUSLY dating.

“STAY SINGLE UNTIL SOMEONE ACTUALLY COMPLIMENTS YOUR LIFE IN A WAY THAT MAKES IT BETTER TO NOT BE SINGLE. IF NOT IT’S NOT WORTH IT. “

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Now you may think you know the questions off the bat “do you have goals” or “Turn on and turn-offs” but that is just small talk if we’re being honest. These questions need to be asked somewhere towards the beginning of seriously dating so that neither one of your time is being wasted. Because let’s be honest, who wants their time wasted? Let’s get to the questions:

What would you define as cheating?
I think this question is very important to ask, especially when you guys are serious about this relationship. Some may have the basic definition of cheating as being anything physical and for some (me) can look at emotional cheating as just as bad. A lot of men don’t even consider emotional cheating when asked about cheating.
What lessons have you learned from your past relationship?

When going through a breakup, most are focused on what the person may have done to cause it and not what lessons they can take from the end of a relationship. There are things that this broken relationship should teach you for your next one, rather it being the treatment of one another, settling, and so much more. Things may have ended but it should’ve taught you something positive.  It could have been about yourself or what you may want in a partner.

Would you compromise your happiness for the success of the relationship?

So this is one pill that I need a lot of people to swallow. A relationship should not be what brings you happiness. You need to have an identity outside of it. Get some hobbies, climb the ladder in your career, do something. Once you do that, ask yourself, if what makes me happy requires me to move or put my focus only on that would I turn it down for love or put my focus on success. At the place, I’m in right now money comes before a man. That sounds bad but that’s why I’m not in a relationship. You need to make that decision before you get in one. I’m sure my priorities will change and I will make room in my life for a man but right now I am focused on success and no one will get in the way of that.

What is a relationship deal-breaker for you?

A deal breaker is a factor or issue that, if unresolved during negotiations, would cause one party to withdraw from a deal. Your deal breakers should not be childish like “height” but it should be something you would not tolerate. For instance, one of mine is someone who is not religious. Just because I believe that someone should follow

What is your love language?

It is important to know not only your love language but your partners as well. Because you may be a gift-giving type of person or about compliments but that doesn’t mean that is how your person shows love. My love language is Quality  Time no amount of presents can compare to a man giving me his time. Time is very valuable. Click the link to take the quiz and find out yours. 

What’s your love language?
If you could ask me any question and have me answer truthfully, what would it be?

Not that you should be lying to your significant other, but let them ask you a question that they may really want to know the answer to without fear of a lie and or argument. Then ask them a question. This helps bring things to the table and helps with communication. Communication is important but comprehension is just as important.

Would it bother you if I earned more money than you?

Some men (boys) will get a bruised ego if a woman is doing better than them and making more money. You should know a man is secure with himself and his success. Because we live in a society now where women are starting to pass men in success, you need to know you’re with someone who is okay with that. If you find out that they have an issue with that, it may be a red flag.

If you were given One million dollars right now, what would you do?

So I am a penny pincher. I do enjoy spending money but I am careful with it and pay for important things first. Responsibilities must be taken care of first. Finances are one of the biggest issues in the failure of a relationship. I want to see how a guy spends his money. Do you know if he invests in anything? Is he putting some in savings? Does he pay off debt? Does he buy something that goes towards his dreams and goals? This is important. You may have a lot of money but you can waste it fast if not done correctly.

If I lost my job, what would you do?
One big topic of discussion that is important to have in a relationship finances. I need to know you can carry the responsibilities until I get back on my feet. You guys need to be able to share the responsibilities.

If you had to boil your principles into 3 words, what would they be?
This question was from a movie called “The best man holiday”. The reason that this stuck with me is for the simple fact that you can see a person’s true intentions just based on their answers.  From the answers, you then decide if you both are compatible with one another. The answers showcase what you value in life. I’m still trying to decide what mine are. The older you get, the order changes.

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