People in therapy often go to therapy to deal with the people I’m their lives who won’t go to therapy.
So, I experienced my first time in therapy, and honestly it was the best feeling ever. It was much different than I thought it would be. You know, the typical stereotypes from movies.
I didn’t realize how much was kept inside of me and till I exploded.I would keep myself buys in order to keep my mind off my issues and emotions. Just to let you know, that is not healthy.
Obviously, with this pandemic going on I’m taking credit precautions and making sure to do what I can to say safe. My therapy sessions have been over FaceTime and phone calls. So, we started off with her getting an idea what I wanted to get out of therapy. For me, it’s getting us a space to express myself freely, not being judge, a great listener who is reliable and consistent. I wanted to deal with her drama, tips on how to deal with betrayal, and so much more.
Therapy is too good to be limited to the sick.
In the beginning, I went on expressing myself, letting out everything I’ve dealt with from childhood and this past year. A lot, stuck out to me in her comments and feedback. One being, that I need to work on my boundaries. For so long, I’ve been taken advantage of by friends, family, and significant others. Lack of biundaries is really bad and detrimental to your health and peace of mind. First of all, that is something that I need to work on. To everyone reading this, it is OK to say no!!
Moving forward, she then told me to write down my definition of a friend.
I’ll do a post on this later, but she told me to write this down and make it clear to others. People are not allowed to come in out of my life. If they can’t meet that requirement, they cannot have access to me.
We may define therapy as a search for value.
Overall, I would say that it was an amazing experience and I look forward to seeing how far it, continuing this process. Sometimes you have to go to therapy for others because they refuse to go for themselves.
Let me know how you all feel about therapy in the comments!