Living With Regret

One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself. – Shannon L. Alder

Hey loves and welcome back to, Joi’s Journey of Perception.

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Now, As you can see by the title, I am talking about regret today. Oh yes, the thing people hope to escape. I was talking about regret with a coworker, and the conversation got intense.

I would hate to get to a later point in my life where I regret something from now. This is why I make my decisions with a clear mind. let me remind you of mob mantra.

“I’d rather live a life of oh wells, instead a life of what ifs”. -Joi


As I look back in my life,, I don’t think I have any regrets. I always made my decisions carefully. Just think about it, if you made just one decision differently, your entire life would be different.

For example, I had a choice between two different colleges. If I would have chosen my other choice: My degree may be in something else, I wouldn’t have met some of my close friends today, never dated a few people, would probably be with my guy friend from college, and so much more.

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Regret is mostly caused by not having done anything. – Charles Bukowski​


There are some lessons I wish I hadn’t learned. But, now that I think about it, I wouldn’t know what I know today or be who I am.

There are some people you would think that I regret giving the time of day to.

re·gret/rəˈɡret/Learn to pronounceverb

  1. feel sad, repentant, or disappointed over (something that has happened or been done, especially a loss or missed opportunity).”she immediately regretted her words”Similar:be sorry aboutfeel contrite aboutfeel apologetic aboutfeel remorse about/forbe remorseful aboutruerepent (of)feel repentant aboutbe regretful at/abouthave a conscience aboutblame oneself formourngrieve for/overfeel grief atweep oversigh overfret aboutpine overfeel sad aboutlamentfeel sorrow atsorrow forbe upset/disappointed aboutdeploreOpposite:applaudwelcome


  1. a feeling of sadness, repentance, or disappointment over something that has happened or been done.


While I have mourned the ending of relationships, it was fun while we were in it. (Most of the people).

I’ve just learned to accept people for who they are. Yes, some showed up I a mask, I’ll talk about that on a future post, but I couldn’t change those people for me.

I was reading a blog post by Becoming Minimalist, Which I’ve linked below.

The article was basically about elders stating their regrets after looking back on their lives. For example, one of them say said that they regret not living their live being their truest selves. And I would hate to have that regret when I’m older. Why live my one life, trying to impress others who do not care about me.

We live in a time where many are putting on these fake personas to impress people they don’t even know on social media. I get only posting goos times, because why would I post my darkest moments? But posting fake plane photos or pretending to be the perfect religious person doesn’t seem right.

Of all the words of mice and men, the saddest are, ‘It might have been. – Kurt Vonnegut

Another regret from an elder was them not expressing their emotions. Do you know how many people refuse to express how they truly feel, because of pride and ego. Pride will have you lose so many people and things.

This is why any friend who comes to me for advice about liking someone, I am 100% for telling that person. The worst thing they can say is “no, you’re not my type”. But at least you’ll know. There is nothing worse, then wondering what could’ve been. In 4th grade, I had a crush on this boy, who I have on social media today, so , I will not say his name. I told him I like him the last week of 4th grade, and he was like, “why didn’t you just tell me?” From then on, I express my feelings instead of letting them build up.

Forget what others may say, live your life for you. No regrets!

Maybe all one can do is hope to end up with the right regrets. – Arthur Miller

What do you all think? Do you have any regrets you are living with? Let me know in the comments below! Do not forget to like, subscribe, or follow my blog. See you on the next post!

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