“AFTER CLIMBING A GREAT HILL, ONLY ONE FINDS THAT THERE ARE MANY MORE HILLS TO CLIMB” -NELSON MANDELA
No one wants to talk about the giant elephant in the room after graduation, but I’ll be the one to say something. Life after college is pretty depressing. No matter what you do and no matter how much of an extrovert you are or how optimistic you are, it’s pretty depressing. Like many, I try to hide it or find something else to do to keep my mind off how sad I feel. Subscribe and let’s talk about Life after College Uncut.
Fear and Anxiousness
During my final weeks of college, it was a time filled with mixed emotions including fear and anxiousness. Of course, I was happy because I was done with homework and lack of sleep for a while, but I was scared because I didn’t know what was next for me. Here I am. I accomplished a goal, but now I have to come up with a new one or I won’t know what to do with myself. Change is hard for someone who likes to be in control of things and know what’s going on.
Facing Change
The night before graduation, everyone went out to celebrate coming a long way and I was out of my mind. I was trying to numb the fact that I was scared of the change. My daily routines were about to change after the next day. The same people I was used to going to the bars or eating cheese fries with at three in the morning, were not about to be a few minutes away anymore. Those friendships I was used to would now take more effort to keep going.
Post-Graduation Emotions
The day of graduation I was physically, emotionally, and mentally drained. Part of it had to do with all the celebrating, but most of it had to deal with the fact that I wasn’t acknowledging my true emotions towards life after graduation. I had no idea what I was going to do. I had a few ideas about what I wanted to do and where I wanted to move but they take time and money. So, I had to come up with a plan for the present in order to get the future that I wanted.
The Rejection
No one tells you about all of the rejection you deal with after college. The rejection from friends, family and jobs can be overwhelming. Each day that went by of not getting calls returned or emails answered, I would be harder on myself. Picking myself apart about what I did wrong. I started questioning so many friendships and relationships in general, which was not good.
Coping with Depression
During the Summer after college, is when the depression really hit. My friends tried to keep me busy or invite me places but I just was not feeling it. I would stay in bed curled up in a ball thinking about what I was doing wrong with my life. I even stopped eating. Furthermore, I hadn’t done that since high school but it did happen.
Changing Outlook
Eventually I had to turn my outlook on life around. I made a list of new goals I wanted to accomplish, no matter how big they were. The positives should have been my biggest focus. Not comparing myself to everyone else’s path, not the rejection, and not my fear. I just need to enjoy the journey and stop trying to have too much control of my future. Although I’m not living the perfect life right now. I am happy for sure, which is my top priority after graduation.
Life after college can be challenging. It’s important to acknowledge the struggles and emotions that come with this transition. It’s okay to not have everything figured out and to feel lost at times. By recognizing these feelings and shifting focus towards personal growth and positivity, it is possible to navigate the post-graduation phase and find happiness and fulfillment along the way.
Life after college can be challenging.
Remember, it’s okay to take things at your own pace and not compare your journey to others. You have the power to create a meaningful and fulfilling life after college, despite the uncertainties and rejections that may come your way. Thanks for reading! If you loved this post, don’t forget to subscribe for more fashion tips and lifestyle inspiration. Join our community of style enthusiasts and stay updated with the latest trends. Follow us on social media and share your thoughts in the comments below – I can’t wait to hear from you! 💖✨
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