Introduction to Habitual Cheaters
Cheating has been a hot topic lately, but it’s not something that is new. Humans have been cheating on each other for centuries, maybe even millennia. But why do we cheat? And what makes someone more likely to cheat in the first place?
There are two types of cheaters
Let’s get right to it: there are two types of cheaters.
The first type is the narcissist. This person has a sense of entitlement, is selfish and lacks empathy. They’re manipulative, they lie and they don’t care how much damage they leave in their wake. If you’ve been cheated on by one of these people, you know what I mean. The narcissist cheats because it gives them an ego boost and makes them feel more powerful than their partner (who is conveniently out of sight). They also cheat for validation; having multiple partners confirms for this kind of person that he or she is desirable enough to have multiple partners.
Some narcissists will never change—but if your ex was not only a narcissist but was also physically abusive towards you during your relationship (or even just emotionally abusive), then there’s no way in hell I’d wish him back into your life! So good riddance! You deserve better than someone who treats others so poorly!
Cheating is a form of manipulation.
Think of cheating as a form of manipulation. Think about the person doing it: They’re not satisfied with their current relationship, but they don’t know how to leave it. So instead of saying “I’m unhappy,” they say something like “I want more from you.” The problem is that this person isn’t actually looking for more; in fact, he or she may be looking for someone else altogether. It’s selfish because it’s all about them and what they need without any regard for how their actions affect others.
The cheater wants attention (from you), feelings of power (over you), and control over the situation—all things that come easily when there’s no commitment involved in an affair.
Cheating is selfish.
Cheating is selfish.
It’s not about the person you’re cheating with, it’s about you. If you’re cheating on your partner, it means that:
- You don’t respect them enough, to be honest, and upfront with them.
- You don’t trust them enough to share your feelings in an open way.
- Your needs are more important than their needs.
It’s not uncommon to feel addicted to someone who doesn’t return your feelings.
If you’ve ever been in a situation where someone doesn’t return your feelings, it’s probably not uncommon to feel addicted to that person. It’s a form of codependency—you are dependent on them and they don’t need you in the same way. You might even be happy with this arrangement; after all, there’s nothing wrong with being friends with someone who doesn’t love you back!
But wait: what if they do actually become interested in you? That can be incredibly confusing if it happens suddenly, as it often does when people are already emotionally invested. The best thing to do is just let things progress naturally; if this person isn’t completely into you (or vice versa), then no amount of pushing will make them or change their mind.
People often normalize cheating in their minds.
Cheating is not normal. It is a choice, and there are consequences for those who choose to cheat. It is a form of abuse, and it’s selfish. Cheating people aren’t thinking about the other person or their needs—they’re only thinking about themselves.
It’s time we start talking about this issue openly, so we can see the signs of habitual cheating earlier and prevent it before it happens.
Takeaway: If you’re being cheated on, you should move on and take care of yourself.
- If you’re being cheated on, it’s time to move on. You need to be happy and healthy for yourself.
- Don’t let your partner’s behavior affect your self-esteem or control you. Their actions don’t define who you are as a person; they only reflect poorly on them as a human being—and even more so as a partner/lover/friend/family member.
- Cheating is abusive behavior and should be treated the same way as any other form of abuse: don’t tolerate it!
Conclusion
We hope this post has helped you better understand both the psychology behind what’s driving people to cheat and the impact it can have on your relationship. If you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship, it’s important to remember that there is no excuse for abuse. It doesn’t matter if they are “good” at times or if they say they don’t mean it—the fact is that they engaged in behavior that was hurtful towards someone else. The best thing you can do for yourself is to get out of that environment as soon as possible so that you can heal from any physical or psychological damage done by being abused by someone else.