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Breaks in Relationships

Breaks in Relationships (pain of losing)

It’s a relationship, not a prison. There can be a lot of pressure for couples to stay together. In some cases, it may feel like there is no other option or that your partner will grow tired of your needs if you ask for space. But what if you need to take some time away from your partner in order to breathe and gain clarity on whether you want things to continue? Breaks can be healthy for relationships but only if done correctly and with clear expectations in mind. The pain of losing.

Take a breather

If you’re wondering whether to take a break from your relationship, here are some things to keep in mind:

  • You need a break if one of you is tired and needs space. Sometimes when you’re in love, it can be easy for partners to forget that they need time alone. If one or both of you feels like this is the case, then maybe it’s best if the two of you take some time apart.
  • It’s not a breakup if neither person intends on leaving their partner forever. A break is basically just a cooling-off period—time away from each other so that both parties can gain perspective and figure out what they want out of the relationship again. Taking a break doesn’t necessarily mean that things won’t work out between the two of you later down the road; it just means that right now, one or both people aren’t ready for what being together entailed (and maybe never will be).
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Make sure it’s a break and not a breakup

To be honest, it’s hard to know the difference between a breakup and a break. Sometimes people don’t even know what they’re doing. But here are some things to look out for:

  • A break is when you’re not dating someone anymore but you still love them and maybe want to get back together someday; a breakup is when you’ve decided that you will never ever ever see them or hear from them again unless it’s because one of your mutual friends has hooked up with their ex-boyfriend/girlfriend who used to go out with the person in question.
  • With breaks, sometimes both people want to give each other space to figure things out (or just get over each other), so they stay friends but separate for a while. But if someone says “I’m breaking up with you” then it means they’re definitely not coming back! They might still see each other at work or school or something like that though… so… um… yeah… maybe try not getting dumped forever just yet?

Do your own thing

So, how exactly do you go about doing your own thing? Well, for starters:

  • Don’t be clingy. It’s possible that your partner is going through a rough time and needs some space to sort out their feelings. If they don’t want to talk about it, then respect that decision—don’t pester them with texts or calls throughout the day!
  • Don’t be needy. A relationship should be about mutual support, not one person being dependent on another for happiness and validation. If you find yourself needing more from your relationship than it can give at this time, it might be best to take a break so that both of you are able to grow and learn separately before getting back together again later down the road (when hopefully things will work out better).
  • Don’t become a pest who harasses their ex over social media or by knocking on their door nonstop when they’re trying desperately just not think about how lonely they feel right now because of all this uncertainty surrounding an intimate partnership which was once very important but now feels like nothing more than another failed attempt at building any kind of lasting connection between two people who really need each other right now but maybe aren’t ready yet…
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See other people

So, you’re seeing someone. You’re really into each other and things are going great. But then something happens: they suddenly become less interested in you. Or they don’t want to spend as much time together anymore. This can be really hard on anyone. Thev pain of losing your love is hard. It’s no surprise that the fear of being alone is one of the most common fears that people have!

  • What do I do?

But don’t worry. There are lots of options for what you can do next. Here are some tips for dealing with a breakup (pain of losing):

  • See other people! If you suspect that your relationship isn’t long-term material, it might be best not to wait around for it to end; instead, why not date someone else? If there was nothing fundamentally wrong with your previous relationships (you liked them enough), chances are good that there must be something about yourself that needs improvement if you’re having second thoughts about commitment now. Instead of focusing all of your energy on one person who may not return those feelings anyway, why not try meeting new people and letting them get to know the real “you” before committing fully?

Have a frank discussion about expectations

Have a frank discussion about expectations.

It’s time to talk about what you want from the future. Do you think the relationship will work out, or do you want to end it? If you do want to keep dating, what kind of changes would each person need to make in order for things to be different? Talk through these questions together. See if they can come up with some answers that make sense for both of them. If nothing else, this exercise can help clarify their own thoughts. And feelings so that they know what direction they want their lives (and the relationship) going in next.

Breaks can be helpful to create space in a relationship but it’s important to have clear expectations.

Breaks are not the same thing as breakups. Breaks are a healthy way to create space in a relationship. Give yourself time to think about what you want from your partner and the relationship.

While some people may think breaks are a good way to end a relationship. They can also be helpful in clarifying expectations and creating momentum toward growth or improvement in the relationship.

To Be Blunt:

They are useless and stupid. Either we’re paired up or we’re not. If you need to improve yourself, that’s okay! We’ll part ways. If you need some time to reflect, cool! We’ll part ways. A coward’s method of ending things with you is to take breaks. Regarding breaks, they are equivalent to a breakup phase. And to those who are interrogating me…


Your relationship may not be perfect, but it’s worth working on. Because we all know the pain of losing someone you care about. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or just need some time to get it together. A break can be helpful in getting your head straight so that when you go back to being together, things will feel fresh and new again!

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