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4 Reasons it Sucks Being an Overthinker

4 reasons Why it sucks being an overthinker

If you’re an overthinker, chances are you know exactly what I’m talking about. If not, let me give you a little background: Overthinking is when your brain spins out of control and gets stuck in endless loops of negative thoughts. You might be asking yourself questions like, “What if this doesn’t work? What if something bad happens? We overthink. What if they don’t love me back?” The list goes on and on — and often makes it impossible to move forward with life or make any decisions at all.

If you want to stop overthinking but don’t know how — or even where to begin — then this article will help! In it, we’ll discuss four reasons why it sucks being an overthinker (and the impact those thoughts have on our lives), plus some practical tips for overcoming them so that we can start living without anxiety and fear holding us back from achieving our goals

You struggle to trust yourself.

Your brain is a tough critic, and it’s hard for you to trust yourself. You might be the most logical person in the world, but that doesn’t mean your brain will listen to reason.

Overthinking can make it difficult for you to trust yourself because of the way it warps your thoughts and emotions. When you overthink, you lose sight of what matters, so you don’t know what’s right or wrong anymore. When this happens, it’s easy for self-doubt and uncertainty to creep in—and believe me: as an overthinker myself, I know how frustrating this feeling can be!

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You struggle with decision-making.

You’ve probably noticed that it’s harder to make a decision when you’re an overthinker. That’s because you have all of these options, and none of them are perfect. So what do you do? You second-guess yourself, constantly wondering if the other option would be better or worse than your current choice. Plus, there’s always that fear of making the wrong decision and then regretting it later on down the line—and who wants that?

So here’s something important to remember: just because one option seems better than another doesn’t mean it is better for YOU specifically! Maybe taking that job in another city would allow your partner more time with their family without them having to move away, but maybe working with people who have been doing similar work for years would help improve both how well respected AND how comfortable at work each day feels by providing much-needed guidance on top of encouragement along the way (and let’s not forget about those free drinks).

You question whether you’re on the right track.

Being an overthinker means you’re constantly questioning whether you’re doing the right thing, and that can be exhausting.

You know what it feels like to ask yourself this question: “Should I change my course? Should I try something new?” It doesn’t matter if the decision is big or small; it’s always there in your head somewhere. It’s a constant nagging feeling that sticks with you because you think about what could go wrong and how bad things could be if they do go wrong.

You miss out on opportunities.

Overthinking can lead to self-sabotage. If you are constantly thinking about the negative outcomes of your actions, chances are you will miss out on opportunities in your life. You may not be able to make decisions or take action because you don’t trust yourself enough to go with what feels right at the time. Your anxiety might even get so bad that it prevents you from enjoying the moment and experiencing pleasure in life!

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Being an overthinker is a habit — and you can change it.

You may be thinking, “What if I can’t change this?” And the answer is that you can! It takes a lot of practice, but you can learn to trust your instincts and make decisions faster. Overthinking is just a habit, and habits are things we do without thinking. If you’ve been overthinking for years or decades, learning to trust yourself might seem nearly impossible at first — but with practice and patience it gets easier every time. In fact, the more times you do it right (which means making fast decisions), the less overthinking becomes an issue in your life.

Don’t let overthinking ruin your life, understand & manage it instead

  • Understand why you overthink
  • Understand what triggers your overthinking
  • Understand how to manage your overthinking
  • Understand how to overcome your overthinking


If you’ve been overthinking for most of your life and are just now realizing it’s a problem. I know how hard this can be to accept. But don’t worry — the first step is admitting there is one! Overthinking is something many people struggle with, but it doesn’t have to be an insurmountable obstacle in your life. It also doesn’t mean that all hope is lost if you’re an overthinke. There are ways to manage and even overcome these tendencies. Just remember not to beat yourself up about them too much because self-criticism only makes matters worse.

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