Why you should only show up for people who show up for you
It’s hard to be a good friend. You have to put in the time, energy and effort if you want your relationships with people to grow. That means being supportive when things are tough for them and also making sure that you get what you need from the relationship as well. But it’s also important not to let yourself go overboard on this support—or else your friends will start taking advantage of your generosity or even stop respecting you because they know they can always count on you being there for them no matter what happens.
People who don’t show up for you are not your friends.
If someone is your friend, it’s your responsibility to show up for them.
The best way to do this is by being there for other people as well–especially when they need you most. Your actions will speak louder than words because actions are what define a person’s character and values (and therefore, friendships).
If someone doesn’t show up for others who need them, then why would they show up for you? If someone doesn’t even care about themselves enough to maintain healthy relationships with others in their life, why should we expect them to care about us?
People who only want to talk when they need something are not your friends.
So, what are we supposed to do with all this information?
Well, first of all, if someone is only around when they need something from you, then they are not your friend. They’re using you and they don’t deserve your time or energy. You deserve better than that! If someone truly appreciates what you have to offer (and who doesn’t?), then he/she will want to spend time with the real thing–not just an idea of who he/she thinks she might get from being around you.
I’m not saying that there aren’t people out there who will take advantage of any situation or person; however, there are also plenty of people who recognize value when it comes around them…and know how valuable their own contributions are too! These types tend not only appreciate what others bring but also know how important it is not only for themselves but also those around them as well!
People who only want to help when it’s convenient for them are not your friends.
If someone only wants to help when it’s convenient for them, then they’re not your friend.
You should never feel like you owe someone for helping you out. Help should be given freely, without expectation of anything in return–it’s one of the things that makes us human! If someone only shows up when they need something from you (or if they show up at all), then don’t let them get away with taking advantage of your generosity by guilt-tripping you into giving more than what was asked of them. This can happen when someone asks a favor but doesn’t follow through on their end of the bargain.
Or if a friend asks for advice but never takes any action based on what was suggested; or even just casual situations where someone asks an opinion about something personal yet doesn’t listen carefully enough before speaking up again later about how wronged he feels by whatever happened next…and so on and so forth until finally both sides decide enough is enough and break ties completely out of frustration over feeling as though nothing ever changes between them no matter how many times they try hard work things out together again later down road too late already gone forever lost forever gone forever lost forever gone forever lost forever gone forever lost forever gone forever lost…
If a friend is going through a tough time and doesn’t reach out to you, that’s not your fault or anything to feel guilty about. Your job is to love them, not be their emotional support system. You can’t be all things for everyone, and no one should expect you to be.
- You don’t have to be there for everyone.
- You can’t help everyone, and that’s okay.
- If someone doesn’t want your help, that’s also okay.
The bottom line is this: if you feel guilty about not being able to help someone you care about, then it’s time for a conversation with them about how they feel about their own situation and what they need from others in order to get through it successfully (or at least with less suffering).
You should realize that people who do this often have deeper issues than just being bad friends
The truth is, there are people in the world who are just bad friends. It’s not your fault, it’s theirs. You shouldn’t feel guilty for not being able to help them all the time, because if you try too hard and give too much of yourself away, then you might end up losing yourself along the way.
People who act like this often have deeper issues than just being selfish or inconsiderate–they need to deal with those issues themselves before they can be good friends (or even decent human beings).
You should realize that people who do this often have deeper issues than just being bad friends. They may be codependent, narcissistic or simply afraid to let go of the past. If you find yourself in a relationship like this, it might be time for some soul-searching on your part as well!
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