Welcome back to Joi’s Journey of Perception!
I am back with some knowledge learned through life experience. If you are new here, you will come to learn that I share a lot of my life experiences that you can relate to. It’s good to learn from others mistakes. Be sure to hit that follow for more.
So, as you can tell by the title, we are learning about self-love. I know you hear people talk about it all the time, but it is very important.
Thank God for growth!
What is self- Love?
- regard for one’s own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic).
Here is where self-love plays into this blog. If you are working towards loving yourself, you will slowly learn that it is okay to put yourself first sometimes. I write about this in my ebook below. Be sure to check it out and share it with a friend.
What does it mean to choose yourself?
Choosing yourself means making yourself a priority. It means you will not tolerate others who show no respect to your boundaries. Choosing you means to know that there is someone out there who will give you the world.
Is it bad to choose yourself?
In certain circumstances, it is bad to put yourself first. If you are doing it to protect your energy, then no it’s not bad. You are choosing to show yourself the love that you were willingly giving others who didn’t appreciate it.
Ciara, Future, & Russell
Many of you know about Ciara’s stories. She’s a pretty R&B singer with a bubbly personality. But like many she not only attracted good suitors, but wolfs in sheep’s clothing as well.
Ciara has dated a few toxic rapper who just weren’t right for her. Like many women, she had to learn the hard way not to put up with the bare minimum from them. Ciara dated toxic rapper Future and carried his child. Future was really holding her back, and it took her getting hurt to learn that she deserved better, Had Ciara stuck with Future waiting for him to change who knew what pain and mental abuse he would have caused her.
What people refuse to see
Most people on the Internet are blaming Ciara for Future being so coldhearted, when in reality, all she did was choose herself. He assumed she was going to be another now of his baby mamas. But, Ciara put in the work to become the best version of herself and prep for her Prince Charming. She chose herself!
I am in the healing stage and I am putting in the work. I have been hurt by someone I never thought would hurt me. As much as I wanted to stick by him, I decided to put me first, because it hurt worst to hold on. Do I miss him? Yes! But I choose me!
What do you all think? Is this great advice? Let me know in the comments below. Don’t forget to like, comment, share, and follow!