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Top 10 Things Men Do When They’re Insecure

top 10 things men do when they’re insecure


If a man wants to be in a relationship with you, he will show you that he cares about you, and that he is attracted to you. Men will do things like learn how to cook for you, clean for you, and take you on dates. But what are some red flags you shouldn’t overlook.There’s one thing that is guaranteed to make a man insecure – other men. Here are 10 things men do when they’re insecure.

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Act overly nice

The most obvious way to act overly nice is by giving the people you don’t deserve it. This can be a friend or family member who has been mean to you in the past or even someone who is just being weird and annoying on Facebook. If you’re getting upset while they’re being mean to you, then it’s probably because they aren’t worth your time in the first place; so turn around and find someone else who would appreciate your company more!

The second thing men do when they act overly nice (and this is where I usually get confused) is when they’re acting too nice towards people who are actually mean-spirited towards them—but not necessarily intentionally so–like bosses or coworkers at work who make sexist comments about women every day…or even just random strangers on the street corner saying some offhanded remark that makes me feel uncomfortable as I walk by them (because obviously everyone thinks everything should come with an apology). These situations make me feel like my masculinity has been threatened somehow; so unless there’s something wrong with me personally, then maybe these people aren’t worth my time either.

Look for fights

When you feel insecure, the first thing that comes to mind is probably “I’m not enough.” That’s a natural response. Insecurity is a feeling of inadequacy, and when your self-esteem is low and you’re not sure how to fix it, it makes sense that you’ll latch onto any reason to feel better—even if it means looking for fights or trying to prove yourself wrong.

When we’re feeling insecure about ourselves or our relationships with others (or both), we often find ways of proving ourselves wrong: either by proving the other person wrong because they’ve been acting differently than usual; or by proving ourselves right because their behavior has changed since last month when we met at this party/last week when I called them up over text message/last year during vacation when we had fun together…

Adopt a macho attitude

  • You can be a man by dressing like one, but not every man has the confidence to do so.
  • If you’re feeling insecure, try borrowing some macho swagger from your favorite fictional character.

Try to make you feel bad

It’s easy to understand why people would try to make you feel bad. It’s even easier to see how they might be able to get away with doing it. But there are some things that can really help prevent this behavior in your relationships, and there are some things you should know if someone is being manipulative or trying to manipulate you into doing something that makes them feel better about themselves.

Here are some ways people try and make us feel bad:

  • They criticize our appearance in front of other people (e.g., “Your hair looks like a bird’s nest!”)
  • They make fun of our clothes or body type when we’re not looking (e.g., “I’m so fat! Look at my stomach.”)
  • They gossip about us behind our backs with others who might listen (e.g., “she’s such a gossip! She tells everyone about everything she does wrong.”)

put themselves down before anyone else can

When you’re insecure, it’s easy to put yourself down. It’s a way of making yourself feel better about your perceived shortcomings and faults. Unfortunately, this can be dangerous because it makes you believe that no one else could possibly like you for who you are—and if they did, then why would they want to?

Insecure men often use self-deprecating comments such as “I’m not good enough,” “I’m not handsome enough,” or “my career isn’t going well.” They may even make fun of themselves or ridicule their appearance by wearing clothes that are too tight or baggy; wearing trendy glasses; dyeing their hair black (which makes them look older); or using heavy makeup to try and hide imperfections.

lord their accomplishments over others

  • Lord their accomplishments over others. The more you can brag about your accomplishments, the happier you’ll be with yourself and the less likely it is that people will judge your worth based on what they see as flaws in your character. This can be done by talking about how great something was or how good of a boss you were at work, etc., but don’t forget to mention other things like how many times per day/week/month (and year) have been seen doing that thing well enough for everyone else around them to stop asking questions about whether or not those things exist in reality; just make sure not too much information gets out!

treat one or more other people poorly

When you’re insecure, you can’t handle the fact that your partner might leave you. So instead, you decide to treat them poorly in hopes of getting them back. This is a form of bullying—the kind that involves beating up on one or more other people in order to make yourself feel better about yourself and/or keep your relationship going strong.

It’s also a form of passive aggression: when someone acts mean-spirited toward others without directly telling them how they feel about them (i.e., “I hate you” but won’t say so). Passive aggression is one way we try not only avoid saying what we really mean but also mask our true feelings behind false ones so no one will notice what’s actually going on inside us!

give unsolicited advice

Insecure men are often the most generous and giving people around, but they can also be the most insufferable. They want to help other people with their problems, but it’s usually at the expense of their own self-esteem. If you’re in a relationship with an insecure guy, try to avoid giving unsolicited advice unless asked for it directly. There is no need for you to give unsolicited advice when your partner already knows what he needs from you because he’s told you plenty of times before. And if he hasn’t mentioned anything specific then don’t assume you have enough information on which not just base your response but also consider how much time should go into offering up solutions before someone else even approaches them as an option themselves!

If this sounds like something that happens often enough in your life together then chances are both partners might benefit from taking a step back together too: maybe one could take some time off work? Or maybe both could get away somewhere far away where no one would hear about their troubles (especially since those two places usually aren’t cheap).

Ignore you

Ignoring you is a passive-aggressive way of getting back at someone. It doesn’t have to be intentional, but it can still hurt your feelings if you think about it too much. Why would someone do this?

It may seem like the most obvious thing in the world: “I’ve been ignoring my boyfriend because he keeps telling me how much better off we would be if he was single and didn’t have to deal with such a needy girl.” But that’s not what they mean at all! They might mean that their lives are better without having someone else in them (and also maybe get some extra time for themselves). Or maybe there’s another reason—like maybe they just don’t like being around other people much anyways so why bother wasting energy on someone who’s always bugging them about stuff anyway?

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try to convince you that you don’t know what’s best for you

Men try to convince you that you don’t know what’s best for you. They will try to convince you that the only way out of your situation is through their help, and they’ll even go so far as to say they’re doing it because they care about what happens to you.

Men do this because it makes them feel powerful and in control, but it will also make them feel like women owe them something—and if she doesn’t have anything more than gratitude then she has nothing worth taking away from him either!

The world is flawed and everyone has insecurities; we just need to work together on how to overcome them

You see, the world is flawed and everyone has insecurities. We just need to work together on how to overcome them.

When you look at someone’s life, it can be hard not to think that they are trying too hard or failing miserably at something important (or even trivial). The truth is: that everyone struggles with their own set of issues and sometimes we need more understanding before we can help each other out.

The good news is that there are many ways for us all to learn from one another!


I have dated an insecure man a trust me, it wasn’t worth it. Let me know in the comments below if you have experienced a situation like this. Also subscribe and check out my other post!

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