“To know yourself, you must sacrifice the illusion that you already do.” — Vironika Tugaleva

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Time for the next chapter in this book. For those of you who are new to my blog, first of all welcome! It is fate that you are here. Second, Do not forget to like, comment, share, and subscribe.

I have been doing blog posts on a book that I am reading. I have made it my New Year’s Resolution to read one book a month. Below you can find those posts!

“Your mind is like a gold mine, if you dig deep you will find something golden.” — Gift Gugu Mona

The desire of connection should not compete with the desire of autonomy.

This chapter is about being aware of why we want things. For example, why we would want a relationship and once in one realizing that you didn’t really want one. Although falling in love is not bad, but we have to realize our needs before getting into a relationship. 

The author said that we should embrace all of our levels as well as be able to embrace our partners. It is okay to ask yourself “what am I feeling” or “what am I afraid of” or “Is my relationship hindering me from growing”? These are just a few questions to understand yourself as a person.

Playing with energy 

The author talks about understanding the other genders can help you understand yourself as well. Certain stereotypes of each gender should not make you feel emasculated or manly. For example, being the big spoon. 

Lesson 7: Surrender the Fairytale. 

With this chapter, many will feel attack. We get these images of love from entertainment, which there is nothing wrong with that. However, it can give you high expectations that will most likely not be met. I think I’m a skeptic. I really don’t think life is a fairy tale. I think love stories have struggles. So much change happens in our lives and those can affect relationships with others. 

The author talks about the different chapters of a love story. She said, “when we fall in love, we tend to become obsessive. Like a drug”. 

Chapter two is about him falling from the pedestal that your person puts you on. This usually leads to a fight. This creates a shift and confusion in a relationship.

A lot of guys, place me on a pedestal and it irritates me, because they have high expectations for me. It’s like I am not allowed to make mistakes because they I would let them down. Do you know how much that hurts? I promise I am not perfect.

The next chapter is brave love.

You’re able to be yourself and love correctly. Both partners show up again and again for each other. 

This is why I don’t get some people’s advice for certain situations. Relationships are not going to be filled with all highs. There are some lows too. To like someone a lot makes you vulnerable, but that right person will show you comfort. 

Solomon talks about how you are brave to even try to love someone. But that right person will make you feel at peace and help you push that beer away. Pass being in a relationship. But once you know different patterns and how to read someone and look at their character over their personality. You will be less likely to be hurt.  

A hard truth is that not every relationship is supposed to make it to a happy ending. Some relationships are just there to help you grow as a person. 

The Lesson for this Chapter

She asked readers to list the chapters of our previous relationship and see if they match up to her’s.

Depressed Ex:

Chapter 1: The Gentleman

Chapter 2: At Peace

Chapter 3: The 180

Chapter 4: The Shift

Chapter 5: Ghost

Chapter 6: Welcome back

Chapter 7: Fall from the pedestal

Chapter 8: The apology

Chapter 9: Rebuilding

Chapter 10: Ghost and Questioning

“We just need to believe in the story of our life!” 

― Avijeet Das

I look back and that relationship was like a telenovela. Obviously, I still care about him. It’s those stages that I do not appreciate. We both clearly have some growing to do.

What are your chapters? Let me know below in the comments! I’m excited to see.