My Thoughts on Resolving Other Peoples Narrative.

“Our dreams and stories may contain implicit aspects of our lives even without our awareness. In fact, storytelling may be a primary way in which we can linguistically communicate to others—as well as to ourselves—the sometimes hidden contents of our implicitly remembering minds. Stories make available perspectives on the emotional themes of our implicit memory that may otherwise be consciously unavailable to us. This may be one reason why journal writing and intimate communication with others, which are so often narrative processes, have such powerful organizing effects on the mind: They allow us to modulate our emotions and make sense of the world.” 

― Daniel J. Siegel, The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are

Hey guys, welcome back!

I hope you have been enjoying this ride with me. And yes it’s been a ride. You all are literally going through my life with me. Based off the topics, that’s what has been going on with me. It’s pretty cool actually.

So let me start off by explaining exactly what a narrative is. According to Oxford Dictionary.

nar·ra·tive

/ˈnerədiv/

noun

• 1.a spoken or written account of connected events; a story: “the hero of his modest narrative“
• 1.in the form of or concerned with narration:”a narrative poem”

I’m going to give you a good example of how narratives are shown in reality shows. So, you know how when you’re watching a reality show for example, Keeping up with the Kardashians is a good example of what narrative means. Let’s look at Khloe to be specific. Do you notice how she played off the emotions of the audience with her set narrative? She was like the fat black sheep, in the family and that’s how she got pity. Or on jersey shore how Sammie Sweetheart, “the sweet girl” who is getting played by a terrible person, which she really was, however, I am just setting up a point.on how narratives don’t just happen on television shows, they happen every day.

Some, are used as motivation to take a vantage of someone who truly cares about you or is trying to see the best in me. And some people know that Tony at his work. Have you been done with someone and they used to who I didn’t have a father in my life where it is. Many people use narratives to manipulate or for the bad decisions that that choose from. which not having a father does cause some issues  Bad outlooks on life, however, but that shouldn’t be the reason that you treat people terrible.

“Life consists of many different stories. A person has not just one but countless life stories that weave in between each other and together create exactly that specific life and that specific human being.” 

― Iben Dissing Sandahl, The Danish Way of Parenting: What the Happiest People in the World Know About Raising Confident, Capable Kids

I’ll give you an even better example, have you ever been with a guy or girl, who plays off the narrative that they’ve had their heart broken So that is their reasoning for treating the person that there within the present look like crap. They do it because in their past things didn’t go right. And that is the most selfish thing can you do, or at least one of the most selfish things you can do. Using that narrative is very much so manipulation. You could just stay single if you’re “heartbroken“ so basically where I’m going from here is that a narrative sometimes communication for you to do better in life can also be used to get people to do what you want. And this is why you should not try to solve others in areas. In order to solve a narrative and requires healing and healing requires forgiveness. If that person is not willing to put in the work to kill themselves from any past traumas, then why would you go out of your way to try to get them to do it. It’s like meeting a horse to the water in Chinese and drink. In my last post, I talk about childhood trauma And how it affects the present. You should go back and read it because it is a very good read. 

https://purejoi18.com/2020/06/07/what-i-wish-everyone-knew-about-childhood-trauma/

If I notice someone using their narrative against me are used to want to fix them and that is my issue. I had an issue of wanting to fix everyone except for myself which I am working on. But now that I know that that is an issue on my part I refuse to solve anyone to narrative just for the simple fact that many people will let you fix them and then they will leave as soon as they’re better. So people need to fix their own narratives on their own and naturally. Khloe Kardashian didn’t do it correctly because there it’s still the issue of her feeling insecure instead of going to see a therapist or talking to someone she went and got plastic surgery. Now I’m not trying to talk down on her, everyone has a way of coping with her issues. However, that will be the best way of doing a terrible nearing put on you. You would have to seek help. 

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