50% of a great relationship is how you treat someone. The other 50% is having the ability, and confidence to communicate the treatment you want in return.Matthew Hussey
Hey loves and welcome back to Joi’s Journey of Perception. If you are new here, I am in the middle of one of my book series. This is when I read a book and give my feedback. This is the book for the end of August and early September.
Even when surrounded by others, we can feel alone.
Self- Love/ Self-awareness
In this chapter, we are focusing on communicating with ourselves. Communication starts with ourselves. Even with social media, you can feel alone, when the intent was to stay connected. I find that funny. You would have thought that being able to connect with people no matter how far away they are would be amazing. But it feels like we are more disconnected than ever because the communication isn’t genuine. A lot of the time it feels like a forced conversation.
I won’t lie, that is why a lot of my friendships and relationships have ended. I was putting in more work than others and it was draining my energy because it felt like they didn’t care.
Communication to a relationship, is like oxygen to life. Without it…it dies.
Do. you know yourself?
The author mentions that we can’t properly communicate because we don’t know what’s going on within ourselves. A lot of communication lacks compassion. Like, there is only so much passion that you can put into a text. Me personally, I am pretty well-spoken and good with my words. So, I prefer to actually speak with someone in person or on the phone. Before hitting send on a text, take a breath and make sure that it is what you truly feel. Let’s start putting the passion back into communicating.
The biggest communication problem is we do not listen to understand. We listen to reply.
What I want to do, is start to communicate with more clarity.
clar·i·ty/ˈklerədē/Learn to pronounce noun
- 1. the quality of being coherent and intelligible.”for the sake of clarity, each of these strategies is dealt with separately”Similar:luciditylucidnessclearnessperspicuityintelligibilitycomprehensibilitycoherencesimplicityplainnessexplicitnesslack of ambiguityprecisionOpposite:obscurityvagueness
- 2. the quality of transparency or purity.
Yes, I am in fact admitting what I need to work on when it comes to communicating. That is the first step to growth. I want anyone that I am speaking to, to be able to understand where I am coming from and vice versa. I want my body language to be coherent with the words coming out of my mouth. A while back I did a post about meditation and I believe that everyone should give it a try. This helps you understand yourself more.
Don’t expect what you don’t communicate.
Occasionally, put the phone time and spend some time with yourself. I will continue on the next post, so be sure you are following me.