Communication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing. ROLLO MAY

When communicating with men, do you sometimes find it difficult? Seems as though men and women can never find common ground. Although we sometimes seem too different, we share many similarities. Hey love, welcome back to Joi‘s journey a perception. We’re finishing up the book: Never Chase Men Again. This is the part where we discuss communicating again. I keep saying how important it is. 

Emtional intelligence is a turn on to them

I have done a post on what emotional intelligence and why it’s important. “. High-quality men seek out women with high emotional intelligence for relationships. Theseare women who can confidently express themselves without emasculating theirguy in the process”. The loudest person in the room isn;t always right. When discussing issues, it shouldn’t feel like an argument. Adult shold be able to have a calm conversation.

Emotional Intelligence and the Lack Thereof

Good communication is just as stimulating as black coffee, and just as hard to sleep after

My Expericence

ow my feminine energy shows in my communication

Once, there was this guy who was always trying to push my boundaries. He believed I was going to argue whenever I complained about how I felt he treated me disrespectfully. “I’m not tryna argue”. No, that’s not what I was trying to do at all. Now that I think about it, I think he would say that for one of two reasons. Due to his experience arguing with women in the past, he assumed that I was like them. Secondly, he was not a very decent man. 

The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place

Where I disagree

In this part, the author says “A man disengages emotionally when faced with constant disrespect”. It’s funny how that is a double standard. A lot of men cannot communicate to save their life. You can only bed disrespected so much. This is why I require a man who knows how to communicate and comprehend. All of the responisbilty cannot be placed only on the woman.

Women tolerate too much

“For example, based on the researchof Dr. John Gottman, world renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, women are able to handle their partner’s disrespectful communication far better than men”. Due to unfortunate circumstances, one side has to be more understanding than the other. I was wondering, what is the nicest way to say this? Males tend to be more sensitive than females. Women should be aware of how strong their tongue is. Men will remember what you say to them for a longer time than you realize.

Moral of the story

Respect to man. Is Love to women. Communication is key.