To change a habit, make a conscious decision, then act out the new behavior.Maxwell Maltz

Hey loves and welcome back to Joi’s Journey of Perception!

I am Joi and today I want to speak on change! Recently I have done a post on a leopard never changing his stripes. But I think there can be exceptions. If you haven’t read that post, click below.

A Leopard Never Changes its Spots

It’s time I go further into, taking in what I also learned and have read.

Start with changing behaviors, not mindsets. It is much easier to ‘act your way into new thinking’ than to ‘think your way into new actions.’ Recurring and consistent performance results from behavior change will lead to lasting changes in the way people feel, think, and believe in the long run.Jon Katzenbach

Answer

Yes, one can change, however… A narcissist can become aware they are one, but It takes a lot of work for them to change. So, the author brought up the Transtheoretical Model of Change

These are the 5 stages of change. While observing someone’s behavior, see this in mind. Are they putting In the work to change? It requires effort.

You’re a grown-up, and you get to decide what behaviors affect you for five minutes versus what behaviors change you as a person.Kelly Williams Brown

Precontemplation

The person has no self-awareness whatsoever. They are nowhere near changing. The person may shift the blame to the victim.

Contemplation.

Person considers changing and pays attention to the benefits or consequences of changing.

Preparation

The person decides they wanting to changing “I plan to change”. All talk, but no action. This is a reminder not fall for potential.

Action

The person is actually working to change. Learning from mistakes, but following a path to be better. That person just needs to stay motivated to change.

Maintenance

The person is consistent and maintains the change.

Definition

change/CHānj/See definitions in:AllMotoringAstronomyClothingBaseballNumismaticsBellringingCommerceverb

1. 1. make (someone or something) different; alter or modify.”both parties voted against proposals to change the law”
2. 2. replace (something) with something else, especially something of the same kind that is newer or better; substitute one thing for (another).”she decided to change her name”

noun

1. 1. the act or instance of making or becoming different.”the change from a nomadic to an agricultural society”
2. 2. coins as opposed to paper currency.

Can someone stop being manipulative?

If they have reached the maintenance stage, it means they are actively consistent. So, they have a better hope.

The person has to be genuine about their change. Don’t jump back into someone without proof of change. People can be good actors.