How often do you guys think about his making a problem worse than it originally was? Overthinking a situation that didn’t require any thought. According to the chapter I read for this book, problems are often created out of illusions. And instead of focusing on the now, we are focusing on what we made up, which causes anxiety. Here’s what really stuck out, I will put the quote below.
“The mind unconsciously loves problems because they give you an identity of sorts”— Entering the Now
I was deeply moved by this. I wanna unpack this! We sometimes write our own narratives to give ourselves some sort of identity. Like we would make our problems our identity so in a sense we could get some type of sympathy. This is very weird but I could see how that could happen.
How I am living in the now
I want to give an example of how I am living in now. When it comes to dating before I was worried about will I end up with this man? Will we end up married how would our kids look and so on. But now I’m just enjoying the aspect of dating and I think that’s taking a lot of pressure off of me him and how things will end. And I would like to say that I am enjoying myself more than I would have years ago when I was thinking about marriage.
“WHEN YOU CREATE A PROBLEM, you create pain. All it takes is a simple choice, a simple decision: No matter what happens, I will create no more pain for myself I will create no more problems”.
The author also talks about how putting a stop to overthinking, puts a stop to the pain you are giving yourself as well as others.
Be sure to be present in everything and try not to overthink. Look at the facts and go from there.
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