Let me set the scene 🎬
Below you will read a question that was sent into me for advice. I got permission to speak on this anonymously:
“ I went on a date with someone and we were both having fun. After the date, we text each other and it felt like things were getting serious. Then one night we decided to get dinner together, but then he canceled because he said his friends would be there so we couldn’t really do anything together until next week when I finally get off work early! So after that night I haven’t heard from him again (but still sometimes wonder if he’s okay).”
You went on a date and you were positive it was going well
- You like the person.
- They like you back.
- You have a good time and feel like you are in a relationship with them, even though it’s not officially official yet because they haven’t asked for your number or tried to meet up again after the date is over (yet).
- You want to see them again, but maybe they live too far away? Maybe they’re busy with other things right now and can’t take time out of their schedule? Maybe we’ll get together at some point in the future! That would be awesome! We can talk about this more on our next date when I’m ready for that level of commitment from someone else (and vice versa), but until then…
You started to spend more time together
You spend more time together.
You get to know each other better.
You feel like you are dating, but you aren’t really. Your friends ask if your are dating and you don’t know what to say. You have feelings for this person, but it is unclear whether or not they feel the same way about you as well as your mutual attraction has faded away over time due to circumstances out of their control (work, family obligations etc.).
Your friends start to ask “what’s going on between you two?”
As your friends start to ask you what’s going on between you and your ex, they may also be trying to help. They might be curious about the details of your relationship and want to know what happened. Your friends can be great sources of support during this time if they are supportive of both of you.
Your friend may even try setting up another date with someone else in hopes that it will bring back some feeling in you that was lost while being involved with someone else. That doesn’t mean it won’t work! It just means that as much as she wants this other person/personality she’s willing to give up anything for them (including her own happiness).
You have feelings but you don’t know if they are mutual
When you have feelings for someone but don’t know if they have the same feelings for you, it can be hard to tell what’s going on. You might find yourself feeling like everything is fine even though your friends or family members know how much this person means to you.
They may not want a relationship with you because they don’t feel ready yet or because of other reasons (like when one person has been hurt before). Or maybe there are other people in their life that are more important than getting into a relationship with YOU!
Sometimes it can be hard for us as humans when we don’t know whether or not someone else likes us back…but if all else fails then at least remember this: even if it doesn’t work out between two parties -they will always remain friends!
It feels like you are dating but you aren’t really in a relationship.
You feel like you are dating, but the other person doesn’t really want to be in a relationship.
You feel like you are in a relationship with someone, but it doesn’t seem like they are interested in being more than friends.
I wish someone would tell me if we are actually together or not.
You are in the thick of it and don’t know what to do. You want to know if you are actually dating or not. You want to know if they feel the same way you do, and vice versa.
You may have had a few different scenarios set up in your mind throughout this whole process: “I’m going to ask him out tomorrow,” “She’s going on this date with me tonight,” “He messaged me back!” But now that it’s happening, there’s so much uncertainty that your stomach is in knots every time someone texts or calls (even if it’s just for a quick question).
I have been in a situation like this, and I understand how confusing it can be. If you are going through something similar, don’t give up! Just remember that there is always hope for the future and I know that feeling better is possible.
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