“We just need to be kinder to ourselves. If we treated ourselves the way we treated our best friend, can you imagine how much better off we would be?”
Hey guys, welcome back!
Today is the last post for this book and I am excited to share the ending. In case you missed yesterday’s post, I have linked it below!
The last post ended with talking about apologizing and forgiving. I ended with speaking about technology sometimes interfering with correct communication. We as a whole need to do better!
“This life is mine alone. So I have stopped asking people for directions to places they’ve never been.”
Moving on to the next chapter, we step back into self love!
Self-Compassion
Self-compassion is extending compassion to one’s self in instances of perceived inadequacy, failure, or general suffering. Kristin Neff has defined self-compassion as being composed of three main elements – self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.
Be on you Own Team
Furthermore, the author talks about how shame, ruins relationships with others and ourselves. She talks about the difference between shame and guilt. Furthermore, you must know that they are different things.
shame/SHām/Learn to pronouncenoun
- a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior.”she was hot with shame”
guilt/ɡilt/Learn to pronouncenoun
- the fact of having committed a specified or implied offense or crime.”it is the duty of the prosecution to prove the prisoner’s guilt”
Self-compassion
There are levels to self-compassion for example:
Self kindness
Mindfullness
“Be healthy and take care of yourself, but be happy with the beautiful things that make you, you.”
Self compassion and self esteem are two different things. You must keep that in mind.
Ride the Waves
Our lives are always changing. We have to trust life and be open to the changes. There are many lessons in our life and we have to go with the way we learn them. Be okay with the unknown. To be honest, if I knew everything that was going to happen to me, life would be boring.
I look back to situations that I thought I would never get over, and if they never happened, my life would be completely different.
You cannot control the waves (life), you just need to learn to ride them and accept them for what they are.
“To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.”
Conclusion
A love that is reciprocated, is what everyone should work towards. In order to get that, you must first begin with yourself. We have to sit with our pain and work on healing it. SO, that was January’s book, and I do hope that you read it on your own. Who knows, you may interpret it differently than me and that is okay. I look forward to seeing you all in the next post. Please don’t forget to subscribe, like, comment, and share!
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