“LIES AND SILENCES CARRY THEIR OWN KINDS OF TRUTH. YOU CAN LEARN A GREAT DEAL ABOUT A PERSONS CHARACTER AND MOTIVES THROUGH WHAT THEY CHOOSE TO WITHHOLD FROM YOU.” –BEAU TAPLIN
Have you ever gotten some news at a questionable time? Like someone waits until they’re caught or until they’re asked about something to admit to it?
You’re more mad about the fact that they waited so long to tell the truth rather than what they actually did. If this happens to me and it will cause me to never trust that person again.
I am the person, that one you’ve lied to me, I’ll question everything you’ve said or have done in the past, present, and in the future. I am a very understanding person and usually give people the chance to tell me straight up something.
I just really get confused and disappointed when someone refrains from telling me something, due to them being afraid of my reaction. It’s very selfish, immature and shows their lack in communication.
You do realize how free you feel when you are straight up with someone right away vs. lying to them? When you tell a lie, you have to continue ,lying in order to keep your story straight. You have to keep lying in order to keep that story going. You’re digging an even deeper grave than you would have been in. You also have to remember your lie. You basically have to alway be on your toes. When you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember what you say.
Personally when someone lies to me, I feel that they are insulting my intelligence. I like to think that what is done in the dark comes to the light and the fact that you don’t think I’ll find something out is hilarious. What’s even worse, is the fact that I don’t even go looking for answers… they come to me, then I’ll ask you to give you one more chance to tell me the truth.
I would respect someone more if they hurt me with the truth rather than keep me sane with a lie.
Let me give you an example of something happening to me in the past. So, I was “talking” to this guy. I put talking in quotes for a different reason, but that’s a discussion for another day. In the beginning of the situation, I asked him was he talking or messing with other females, in which I didn’t care but I wanted to see what he would say. He told me no. I was like “really” and he told me he didn’t have time for entertaining multiple females. So he tried to come off mature in the beginning stages. Fast-forward to a month later, I’m a work and I catch a girl trying to kiss him, he catches a glimpse of me and pushed the girl away. She looks my way and looks back at him. I was not angry and I was not sad. I took my Starbucks because that was all that was on my mind, I chuckled and kept it pushing. I have always been a believer of what’s done in the dark, comes to the light. In which that saying never fails me. I never trip. He tried to text and call, you know the whole deal. But I did not want to hear excuses and lies. I wasn’t mad he was entertaining other girls, what I was annoyed with is the fact that her lied and didn’t think I would find out.
When I ask people questions, I always warn them to tell me the truth, because either I already know the answer and I’m seeing if you will tell the truth or I giving you the chance to earn my trust and respect by telling the truth.
Not only does this apply to romantic relationships but platonic relationships as well. If someone can’t be honest with the truth to you , so they cover it with a lie, you need to block them in real life. Because in reality they’re protecting themselves from the consequences of their actions rather than doing what is best for them. DROP THEM AND BE GREAT!
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