“They always come back”
It’s a fact of life: people come back. But is it true that “they always come back”? Well, yes and no. It depends on what you mean by “always” and how long ago they left in the first place. So before we discuss whether or not you should take someone back after breaking up with them, let’s talk about why people do it in the first place.
Let’s look at some of the possible reasons this happens.
The first reason why people who say “they always come back” are wrong is because they’re not being clear about what they mean by “come back.” Sometimes, when people say this phrase, it’s because they’re hoping that their ex will call or show up at their door. This can happen even if the relationship ended years ago and there was no contact whatsoever since then.
Other times, however, those who claim that their exes always return have experienced some sort of change in their lives since breaking up with them—maybe they got married or had kids; maybe things just weren’t working out as well between them as before; perhaps there were other factors involved in ending things (i.e., one person moved away). Whatever happened during this time period could cause someone to rethink things and want them back again despite having already walked away once before.
The person who leaves is just not that into you
The person who leaves is just not that into you.
You’re probably thinking, “Oh no! What do I do now?” Well, don’t worry. I’ve got your back. Here are three reasons why a dumper might have left:
- They were never really into you in the first place (and this goes for both sides of an engagement). If someone doesn’t show interest after two months of dating and constantly making excuses as to why they can’t meet up with you anymore, it’s safe to assume they weren’t ready for a relationship at all—and maybe even had some emotional issues holding them back from being able to commit fully right off the bat. In other words: don’t sweat over it too much; just go out there and find someone new!
- They didn’t want their friends/family members/co-workers knowing about their new relationship because they felt like it was something private between two people who love each other very much but also enjoy having fun times together without having anyone else know about them (this one usually applies more towards men than women). This may seem strange since we live in an age where everyone seems interested in talking about everything under the sun on social media platforms such as Facebook; however there are still plenty of places where people choose not share personal details about themselves–including relationships–with others outside those immediate circles.”
The dumper wasn’t actually ready to let go of you.
You may have been right to worry. The dumper wasn’t actually ready to let go of you.
In fact, it’s possible that the dumper was scared, or not ready to be alone. Maybe they were afraid of being hurt again by someone else—especially if they’d already been hurt before in a relationship with another person (or even just on their own). They might also be worried about getting hurt again by someone else who would love them unconditionally, which is probably something most human beings want more than anything else in this world!
This can get really complicated in relationships; however, sometimes people need help unraveling these feelings and figuring out how they feel best when left alone (or with certain people).
The “dumpee” is too appealing for the dumper to resist.
You might think that after being dumped, the dumper would be done with the other person. But it’s not always so simple. The dumpee is often still attractive, and the dumper can’t resist seeing if there’s something worth salvaging in their relationship.
For some people, this means going back on a date or even having another try at getting back together—but for others (the ones who weren’t ready to let go), it means continuing to talk about how great everything was when they were together and what could’ve been different if only he wasn’t such an asshole or she hadn’t been such a bitch…
The dumper wants to ensure he or she is making the right decision about a relationship ending.
Dumper may be trying to ensure they are making the right decision.
Also, the dumper may be trying to ensure they are not making a mistake.
The dumper might want to make sure they aren’t hurting you by breaking up with you.
It’s something we do to punish the person we left.
It’s a way to get back at the person who left you. You want to make them feel as bad as you do, and regret leaving you. Your goal is not only for them to think twice about leaving someone else but also for them to realize that if they have a problem with their partner, there should be consequences (punishment). You can’t just let it go when something goes wrong in a relationship; the best way of dealing with an issue is by making sure it never happens again!
It’s a way to make sure we don’t get our hearts broken. In case it doesn’t work out with someone else we’re dating.
You know that saying, “They always come back”? Well, it’s true. But there is a lot more to it than just that.
The dumper is afraid of getting hurt again by choosing the wrong person. Ending up with a heartache like they did before. The dumpee wants to make sure they are making the right decision. In order for them not to get their heart broken again. By choosing someone who doesn’t love them as much as they do (or at all).
What can you do if you’re having a hard time letting go?
It’s important to remember that you are not the only one struggling with this situation. There are many people out there who have gone through what you’re going through and have found themselves in similar situations, so take some time to be compassionate and supportive of them, too.
If you find yourself feeling sorry for yourself or getting frustrated with your ex. Try focusing on your own life instead of theirs. When we dwell on our problems too much. Be they big like losing a job or small like forgetting someone’s birthday. We can end up feeling paralyzed by fear and unable to move forward with our lives (or even start). Instead of focusing on why they left me/us/our relationship in the first place, I suggest thinking about how amazing it is that we met each other in the first place! This may sound cheesy. But it really helps me feel better when I’m sad over someone leaving me. Because it reminds me how lucky I am not only being able to remember him/her. But also appreciates all the good times we had together while growing closer together as well as apart from each other.”
People often come back when they realize they made a mistake. But it doesn’t mean you should always take them back.
But you can’t always take them back. Some people are just not worth it. And if you’re the one who’s making that mistake, then you need to be able to move on from it.
You have to trust yourself and trust the other person as well. You might think they’ll change their ways and become a better person than they were when they first started dating or married someone else, but this is not always true! Sometimes people will stay even after knowing their faults deeply. And sometimes these faults are so deep-seated that they can never be fixed… no matter how hard we try!
The bottom line is, if you know that the person who left you still cares about you and wants to be with them. Then don’t give up on them just yet. If they’re willing to try again with another relationship or even stay friends with no expectations at all. Then it may not really be over after all!