Losing yourself in someone
It’s easy to lose yourself when you’re in a relationship, but that’s not always a good thing. At the end of the day, you are an individual with your own interests, beliefs, and desires. Sure, relationships require compromise and give-and-take…but there should also be some areas where you can keep your identity intact. To help you keep yourself together as someone who isn’t just defined by their relationship status:
Think about why you’re in a relationship.
If you’re thinking about getting into a relationship, you should be in it for the right reasons. It would be best if you were in it because it makes you happy. You should be in it because your partner makes you feel good and vice versa. If any other reason comes first on this list, that’s a red flag!
If you’re already in a relationship, then make sure that staying together is still something that makes both of you happy. And continues to meet all those criteria listed above (you know… happiness, compatibility etc.).
Remember that being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to change every aspect of yourself.
Not every aspect of your life has to change once you enter into a relationship. You don’t have to turn into someone completely different. Nor do you have to give up your identity in order for anything to work out. Remember that being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to change every aspect of yourself. If he or she loves the person you already are, then there should be no need for any drastic changes on either side. Just because there’s another person in the picture doesn’t mean that one-half of your brain will suddenly switch off (and vice versa).
Don’t forget who you are when you’re with your partner.
- Don’t forget who you are when you’re with your partner.
You and your partner need to be able to be yourself around each other, and it’s important to not lose sight of who that is. There should be no need for pretending; if one of you is a gamer and the other isn’t. Or if one of you loves spending time on the beach while the other would rather spend hours at their job – don’t feel like there has to be some kind of compromise in order for both parties needs to get met. You should always feel comfortable doing what makes sense for *you*. That’s what will help keep things balanced in any relationship!
Learn to say no if necessary.
This can be a difficult thing to do for some people. But it’s crucial in maintaining your own identity and independence. The more you allow yourself to be controlled by others, the less likely you are to be able to think rationally when making decisions that affect your life in the long term.
If you feel like someone is trying to control you or make decisions for you without consulting about how it would affect their partner (the person they’re dating). Then it might be time to take a step back. This is not only important for those who are just starting out in relationships – even married couples need occasional space from one another!
Don’t be afraid to take time for yourself.
Don’t be afraid to take time for yourself.
It’s important to spend time alone, away from the relationship. You need time to think, relax and recharge—and you can’t always be thinking about your partner. You need to be independent. This will allow you to think clearly and make better decisions in the long-run. If a relationship is making you feel like you can’t do anything by yourself, then it might not be worth it after all!
Take the time to get to know your partner as an individual and not just a part of your life.
You should ask your partner about their interests, dreams, and goals. Ask them about their past, family, and friends. Ask them about their work, hobbies, and favorite things.
Ask what music they like to listen to on the weekend or in the morning when they’re waking up.
Do you want to know what makes your partner tick? Take the time to learn more about them as an individual:
It’s OK to have some secrets from your partner.
One of the most important things to remember when you’re in a relationship is that it’s OK to keep some things to yourself. If your partner is someone who would pressure you into telling them something. Or if they’re the type who will get mad at you for not telling them something, then that may not be a good person for you to be with.
You can have secrets from your partner and still be loving or caring. You can also keep secrets because they are private matters. Such as how much money you make or how much debt you’re in; these things don’t need to be shared unless they become relevant. And usually only then by accident! Some people even feel safer having secrets from their partners because it helps them feel like they have control over themselves. And their lives again; this gives them more confidence in themselves which means less anxiety overall too!
Your identity matters, even in a relationship!
In a relationship, it’s important to remember who you are outside of your partner. Don’t lose yourself in the other person. You should still be taking time for yourself and not losing sight of what is important to you. Even if that means spending time alone and apart from your partner. It’s also important to understand that while they may be an integral part of your life now, they will not always be there. Whether it is short-term or long-term, whenever a new relationship comes into our lives we need to get acquainted with them as individuals before we allow them into our inner circle of trust.
It’s perfectly okay for someone else in your life (friends/family) or even yourself to remind you about this balance between personal identity and romantic relationships!
Conclusion
If you were looking for a quick answer to this question, there isn’t one. Relationships are complicated and everyone deals with them differently. But if you can remember these five things: 1) You are more than your relationship status; 2) Don’t lose yourself in your partner; 3) Take time for yourself; 4) Don’t be afraid of having secrets from your partner; 5) Get to know each other as individuals first before entering into a relationship together.”
