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A Little Lesson in Friendship

Hey loves, Welcome Back to Joi’s Journey of Perception

I am here to talk about my book for April

I wanted to do a book for March but I could not find the book that I had planned. But I am her to talk about April’s.

This Month’s Book

Friendships don’t just happen by Shasta Nelson

Chapter one is called “Admit the Admire”

Just by that title, you can see that the author is suggesting for us to take the step of telling someone that we all should be friends. I know that it is hard to make friends as adults. And I mean good friends. Reliable friends. But we have to stop being afraid of what others think. If you would like to be friends with someone, tell them.

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Stop hoping to make friends

Take the step to make them

I’m ready to make new friends that actually value the friendship like myself. I do not want it to be transactional. I want us to grow with each other. Explore the world. Share stories, and much more. Not them just coming to me for help and advice. Everyone needs friends.

“Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.” — Muhammad Ali

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We all crave friendships

Just like craving romantic relationships

we feel the same way with friendships. Which is why I don’t understand women who drop friends once they get into a relationship.

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Friends play the most important role in our pursuit of happiness

“more meaningful contributor to happiness”

It would be nice to travel with friends and see the world. That is my goal.

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Low interaction

Leads to health problems.

Friendships play so much of a role. Which is why you say many people going crazy during quarantine.

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The author also talked about research on how having lack of friends and fighting cancer

$did not lead to remissions

You need that support

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Friendships are held together by the wanting to be friends.

We are not bonded together but contract.

You are friends with people because you want to be friends with them.

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Childhood friends

Think of you friendships created as children.

We all stated to our friends that we promise to be friends forever. We put in the work. Sort of like a plant. It requires consistency.

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Friendships Change

We let them grow.

But the author brought up a good point. Why are we in contact with acquaintances more than friends. Which is why I’m okay with people leaving my life.

Are you still friends with people you were friends with 10 years ago? Did life changes affect that? Let me know down below! I will see you all on the next post for the next chapter. DO not forget to follow!

“Growing apart doesn’t change the fact that for a long time we grew side by side; our roots will always be tangled. I’m glad for that.” — Ally Condie

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