7 Lessons I learned from my last relationship

7 Lessons

I have been in a relationship maybe 2 years ago. At first, it was great but as time went on things started to change. We stopped having fun together and we weren’t communicating anymore. I learned 7 lessons. We ended up breaking up last year and since then I have learned some valuable lessons about love that I want to share with you today:

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“Don’t stop your life, just because you are in a relationship.” (7 Lessons)

1 of 7 lessons. I spent most of my relationship watching Netflix, eating frozen pizza, and playing video games. My girlfriend at the time was always busy with work and study so I didn’t see much of her anyway. The time we did spend together was great, but I felt like it made me less productive as a person overall. In fact, if you have met me in real life then you know that I am not a very social person. Which is why having a girlfriend taught me this lesson:

Don’t stop your life, just because you are in a relationship!

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It may sound obvious but it took me a long time for this to sink in! You are still you when you are in a relationship; don’t stop doing things that make up who YOU ARE because someone else isn’t around to do them with or for you anymore (unless they tell YOU not too). If they do say no then sure….take some time out then go back at it again when they come back around 🙂

“Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you should throw away your standards.” (7 Lessons)

This is a lesson I learned the hard way: you can’t always be the person your partner wants you to be. There will inevitably be differences between the two of you, and those differences don’t have to mean one person is right and one person is wrong. But if your partner tries to change who you are, or attempts to get something from you that isn’t healthy for either of you, it’s okay for them not to see eye-to-eye with your stance on something. Your values aren’t up for debate just because someone else has different ones than yours.

This isn’t about being selfish; it’s about putting yourself first sometimes—and knowing when it’s time to take care of yourself instead of worrying whether someone else might get upset or disappointed if they don’t get what they want out of things like who gets paid first at restaurants or whose turn it is for driving places

“Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable.”

If there’s one thing I learned from my last relationship, it’s that vulnerability is a sign of strength. When you’re willing to cry in front of someone and be vulnerable about how sad you are, the person on the other side will feel more connected to you because they know that they can trust you enough to share in your pain.

This may seem counterintuitive—we usually think of vulnerability as something that makes us weak—but when we open ourselves up, we actually gain power over our relationships. Being vulnerable means we’re willing to be hurt or disappointed by another person; however, being willing to do this shows that we value honesty and trustworthiness above all else. This allows us to be honest with each other without fear of retaliation because our feelings are safe (and valued).

“First date and the following dates, are only opportunities to know each other.”

“First date and the following dates, are only opportunities to know each other.”

I had never heard this saying before, but after my last relationship, I realized that it is so true. If you really want to know someone and see if they are right for you. Then take advantage of that first date by asking questions and listening carefully to what they have to say. This can help you learn a lot about your new partner and whether or not they are worth your time (and vice versa).

“Stop being that desperate person, that is looking for love from other people constantly. Be true to yourself and live your life, let love find you. You don’t need to go after it; love will come for you when it is time for you to find love again.”

You shouldn’t be that desperate person, that is looking for love from other people constantly. Be true to yourself and live your life, let love find you. You don’t need to go after it; love will come for you when it is time for you to find love again.

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“When we feel good about ourselves and comfortable in our own skin. We can feel confident about the kind of person we are choosing to be with.”

Love is a choice. We choose to love, and we are responsible for the kind of person we choose to be with.

We have the power to choose our own happiness. We can accept nothing less than what we deserve!

If you’re not happy in your relationship with yourself, then you will never be happy in any relationship.

Love is not an emotion; it’s a conscious decision to invest time and energy into someone else. Because it brings joy into your life.

Love is not an attachment or dependency. It’s caring about another person enough that their happiness matters as much as your own – if not more!

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Love isn’t always easy but there are things you can learn from it

The thing about love is that it’s not always easy. It can be difficult, even painful at times. But I’ve learned that the lessons you learn from relationships are worth the effort.

Love is a journey and if you’re open to learning. It will teach you things about yourself and others in ways that no other experience can compare to.

Conclusion

I know it sounds cliché, but I really do believe that love is the best teacher. It teaches us how to be happy. And find peace in our lives by showing us what not to do when we are looking for love again. So if you think that last relationship was bad, don’t worry! The next one will be better, at least that’s what my experience tells me 🙂

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