“All great changes are preceded by chaos.”– Deepak Chopra

Hey, guys welcome back to another post! Happy Blogmas!

Today’s focus is more on who changes more?. The post that has been going around is this :

I am really doing my best to try to come up with topics to talk to you guys about! Today’s topic is based on a post that has been going around. Twitter usually discuss topics like this. Twitter happens to be one of my favorite apps because it brings awareness to certain topics that are usually avoided in conversations due to it making people uncomfortable.

In the comments you can clearly see that a famous rapper was asking do women change for men? He feels that men are always changing for us and I wanted to talk about it! I have discussed something like his before. I have a post called the relationship chameleon, be sure to check it out.

The Relationship Chameleon

“Change is inevitable. Growth is optional.”– John C. Maxwell

My opinion

Now, this is my opinion! I wanna start by saying that because I know some people will not agree with me and that is fine. So personally, I believe that in a positive and healthy relationship both partners should be changing. Let me not use the word changing, I think it should be growing or evolving. Now with that being said, if the relationship is unhealthy and toxic, one person is usually changing more than the other. And most times it tends to be the woman.

A woman will bend over backwards for a man to keep him happy. I’ve seen multiple women be put through so much for a man to test and make sure that she is a “real one“. She will change what she eats, what she drinks, her weight, her luxe, and so much more to please a man. A man will leave at the drop of a dime if something is not to his liking.

A woman will bend over backwards for a man to keep him happy. I’ve seen multiple women be put through so much for a man to test and make sure that she is a “real one“. She will change what she eats, what she drinks, her weight, her luxe, and so much more to please a man.

A man will leave at the drop of a dime if something is not to his liking they will leave. A man will rarely change because they are stubborn. However, a man still needs to change and grow. You can’t be the same person you were five years ago today.

Growth Vs. Change

According to Dictionary.com

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Change

verb (used with object), changed, chang·ing.

to make the form, nature, content, future course, etc., of (something) different from what it is or from what it would be if left alone: to change one’s name;to change one’s opinion;to change the course of history.to transform or convert (usually followed by into): The witch changed the prince into a toad.SEE MORE

verb (used without object), changed, chang·ing.

to become different: Overnight the nation’s mood changed.to become altered or modified: Colors change if they are exposed to the sun.

Growth

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verb (used with object), changed, chang·ing.

to make the form, nature, content, future course, etc., of (something) different from what it is or from what it would be if left alone: to change one’s name;to change one’s opinion;to change the course of history.to transform or convert (usually followed by into): The witch changed the prince into a toad.SEE MORE

verb (used without object), changed, chang·ing.

to become different: Overnight the nation’s mood changed.to become altered or modified: Colors change if they are exposed to the sun.

To continue

A man not wanting to “change” has nothing to do with you. Him wanting to stay stagnant is his choice and a bad choice at that. Therefore, I do want to bring up the conversation of what should not change in a relationship:

• Your goals and dreams
• Your values
• Your morals
• Your relationship with your family and friends
• Your religious beliefs
• Being an individual
• Having hobbies

If you can’t accept those things about your partner, then they are not the one for you. Period!

Conclusion

I believe that both people need to grow in a relationship. We are always growing and having a person who is growing with you is great. Changing yourself is completely different and is not necessarily good. You should be a complete person before getting into a relationship. You must know who you are and love who you are before getting with someone else. Once you are with your person, you then continue to grow as a person. You never cease growing, which is a good thing.

Let me know in the comments below, what you think about this topic! Also, be sure to like, subscribe, and share. Be on the lookout for another post this week.