When a person shows you who they are

Introduction

I’ve been watching people for a long time, and it’s one of the most interesting things I’ve ever done. There’s an art to it: You have to know who they are before they show you who they are. And when they do, you might not believe them at first. But if you keep showing up and listening carefully over time, eventually enough information will come together to convince you that yes—this is who this person really is!

Stop expecting that to change.

Stop hoping that your partner will change.

Stop wishing they’d be different than they are.

Stop expecting them to be better than they are, or more honest than they are, or loyal enough to stick around when your life is a mess and you’re losing hope in everyone else around you.

People often tell you who they are.

People often tell you who they are.

People will show their true colors in small ways, and sometimes it takes a while before they do. For example, if a person has a lot of money or is well-off, then maybe he’ll be able to afford something that only the rich can afford: an expensive car. Or maybe he’ll have nicer clothes than other people—even though his friends might not think so! It’s important to pay attention to what people do rather than just what they say because these small things are often clues as to the real person inside them (or at least mine).

It might take more than one time for you to believe them.

You might not see the signs, but they are there. It might take more than one time for you to believe them and trust your gut, but if you do, then that’s all that matters.

Your willingness to recognize bad behavior may be a function of what feels wrong about it and how it affects you and your life.

In order to recognize bad behavior, you need to be willing to look at it. You might think that this is obvious, but the truth is that we often don’t notice what’s happening and therefore we can’t do anything about it. This can lead to confusion when people are acting badly towards us or other people in their lives. For example:

• A friend tells me she feels hurt by another friend who has been rude and mean towards her over text messages for months now without saying anything about it directly – so I ask her why she hasn’t said anything yet? She says “I’m afraid of how things will go if I say something.” And then I say “But why? It sounds like a reasonable reaction.” And then it’s up for discussion whether or not there should be a conversation about this at all; is this really worth risking my friendship with someone who clearly wants nothing more than our friendship back (and who has apologized)?

Whatever the reasons are, your ability to recognize the signs matters less than your willingness to believe people show their true colors.

Whatever the reasons are, your ability to recognize the signs matters less than your willingness to believe people show their true colors.

If you’re not willing to believe them, then don’t expect them to change. If someone says something nice about you and it isn’t genuine, trust me: they’re probably going to say something bad about you shortly after—and vice versa for those who’ve treated you poorly in the past. In fact, if someone has done something kind for you and then gone back on his word later on (or vice versa), there’s a good chance that he or she will continue doing so again and again until it becomes second nature—at which point he can start treating other people badly as well!

But here’s something else I should mention: while some people might act differently around others depending on how much respect they feel from those around them (or whether or not they like them), most people tend not change much at all over time unless forced into doing so; if anything changes at all during this transition period between being liked vs disliked by others…it’ll likely happen gradually over time rather than suddenly one day outta nowhere!

Emotional vulnerability is an act of courage, not weakness.

Emotional vulnerability is an act of courage, not weakness.

It’s a sign that you’re willing to be yourself and open up your heart in ways that other people might find scary or uncomfortable. It shows how far you’ve come as a person, which can make others feel more comfortable around you because they know they can trust your intentions.

You’ll also see the benefits of being emotionally vulnerable: people will like you more because it shows that there’s nothing behind the mask—you just want to show them who you really are!

People show their true colors, but you have to really watch and listen closely.

When a person shows you who they are, you have to really watch and listen closely.

People show their true colors by what they say and do. They also show their true colors by how they treat other people: if someone is nice to your face but rude behind your back, then that’s probably not a good sign of character.

Conclusion

We know you’re going to have your own opinions about whether or not what we just said is true. But the bottom line is that when a person shows you who they are, it’s time for a change of heart—both yours and theirs.