Friendship in the Age of Screens
Let’s be honest: friendship in 2025 looks a lot different than it did ten or even five years ago. We don’t just hang out—we follow, like, post, DM, tag, and sometimes… subtweet. And while social media can keep us connected, it can also create a breeding ground for misunderstandings, comparisons, and silent conflict.
In fact, some of the biggest friendship fights today don’t start in real life—they start online.
So what role does social media actually play in friendship tension? And more importantly, how do we manage it without losing our minds (or our people)?
Let’s break it down.
📲 1. Passive Aggression Goes Public
Back in the day, if someone was upset, they might call or write a letter. Now? They post a cryptic quote on their Instagram Story.
“If you have a problem with me, say it to my face, not your feed.”
Sound familiar?
Subtweets, shady memes, and vague posts have become the go-to tools for avoiding direct conflict—while still making a statement. But they don’t solve anything. In fact, they often amplify drama, leave others confused, and make the situation worse.
🔑 What to do:
- Don’t engage with indirect posts. Instead, initiate a real conversation.
- Ask: “Hey, I saw something that made me wonder if we’re okay. Can we talk about it?”
🧠 2. Social Media Triggers Old Wounds
If you have a history of rejection, abandonment, or childhood trauma, social media can hit deep. Seeing your friend hang out without you or suddenly ignore your posts might resurface old emotional wounds—even if it wasn’t intentional.
You might feel:
- Left out or “replaced”
- Hyper-aware of being excluded
- Triggered by comparison or silence
These reactions are real and valid, especially if you’ve been hurt before.
🔑 What to do:
- Notice the feeling—pause before reacting.
- Ask yourself: “Is this triggering an old wound, or a current reality?”
- Journal what you’re feeling before you respond.
🛍️ Helpful Product:
- “The Body Keeps the Score” by Bessel van der Kolk – excellent for understanding trauma responses
- Silk + Sonder Emotional Wellness Journals – guided journaling for emotional clarity
💬 3. Texting Lacks Tone (and Creates Conflict)
How many fights have started because of a text that “sounded rude” or “felt off”?
Digital communication strips away body language, voice tone, and context—making misinterpretation incredibly easy. What you meant as a short reply might be read as cold. What was meant as a joke might be taken as shade.
🔑 What to do:
- When things get heated, move the conversation to a call or in-person chat.
- Use emojis or voice notes to express tone more clearly.
- Don’t assume. Ask for clarification: “Hey, just making sure—did I misunderstand something?”
🕵️ 4. The Comparison Trap Breeds Jealousy
Social media is a highlight reel. When we constantly see friends hanging out with others, succeeding, or posting “perfect” moments, it’s easy to feel less-than—or even betrayed.
“Why didn’t they invite me?”
“Are they closer with her now?”
“I guess I’m not important anymore…”
These spirals can create resentment or pull us away from people we care about, all based on assumptions.
🔑 What to do:
- Mute or limit social media during sensitive times.
- Remind yourself: you don’t see the full story online.
- If you’re hurt, ask—not accuse.
🛍️ Helpful Product:
- Digital Detox Card Deck – 100 prompts to disconnect and reflect
- Unfollow Everyone: A Guide to Digital Boundaries by Emma Gannon
⛔️ 5. Blocking, Unfollowing, and Public Fallout
Let’s talk about the digital equivalent of slamming a door: blocking, unfollowing, and unfriending. While these tools are sometimes necessary for protecting your peace, they can also escalate a situation or create permanent damage in a friendship.
They send a message—whether intended or not.
🔑 What to do:
- Ask yourself: Am I using this as a boundary or as punishment?
- Communicate why you’re stepping back if the relationship matters to you.
- If someone blocks or unfollows you, resist the urge to retaliate. Let space do its work.
👣 How to Move Forward—With or Without Social Media
If social media has hurt your friendship, here’s how to start the healing:
- Acknowledge what happened—both online and underneath it.
- Have a vulnerable conversation if the friendship matters.
- Rebuild slowly—with clear communication and better boundaries.
- If needed, take a step back from social media to reconnect with real-life clarity.
📚 Ready to Heal Beyond the Screens?
The way we show up in friendships is deeply connected to how we’ve been hurt in the past. Childhood trauma, emotional neglect, and abandonment shape how we interpret things like silence, exclusion, and even social media behavior.
That’s why I wrote Emerging Wings: The Wings were Worth the Wait—a raw, honest, and compassionate guide to:
- Understanding emotional triggers
- Rebuilding your sense of self-worth
- Learning to set boundaries in relationships
- And finally becoming your own safe place
If you’ve ever felt like social media made you spiral, this book will help you ground, heal, and reconnect—with yourself and others.
👉 Grab your copy of Emerging Wings here and begin the healing you truly deserve.
Final Thoughts
Friendships can survive social media—but only if we’re willing to be real, not reactive. The platform isn’t the problem. The unspoken feelings, the assumptions, and the emotional triggers are.
So take a breath. Reach out. Set a boundary. Talk it through.
You don’t have to let a “like” or a story view define the fate of a friendship that still matters.
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