How to Handle Disagreements in a Relationship
The best way to handle disagreements in a relationship is by communicating with each other. This may seem obvious, but both partners must take responsibility for their feelings and try not to blame each other for any misunderstandings that may occur during an argument. It’s also helpful if you can both listen with empathy to understand the other person’s point of view before expressing your perspective on the issue at hand. Compromise is also key when it comes to disagreements in relationships because no one can get everything they want 100% of the time. And that includes you!
Don’t blame each other.
- Don’t blame each other.
- Also, do not take things personally.
- Never argue over who is right and who is wrong.
- Don’t argue over who started it, or even how it started–just end it!
Take responsibility for your feelings.
You should also take responsibility for your feelings. If you find yourself blaming your partner for making you feel a certain way, stop doing that. It’s not their fault. It’s yours! They didn’t do anything wrong; they just did what they thought was right or best at the time. If someone makes me angry, I have no right to blame them because my anger comes from within myself and has nothing to do with them (unless they did something intentionally hurtful).
Similarly, don’t try to guess exactly what another person is thinking or feeling based on limited information about their past experiences in similar situations as yours now. Don’t assume that everyone thinks like you do because there are many different ways of looking at things; some people may even disagree completely with how we see things!
Listen with empathy to understand the other person’s point of view.
Listening with empathy is the best starting point for any disagreement. It allows you to hear what the other person is saying and understand where they are coming from, without getting into an argument or trying to change their mind.
- Listen with empathy: When someone is upset with you, they need to feel heard and understood before they can even begin considering your perspective on things. So listen with an open mind and heart–try not to interrupt, argue with them, or change their mind immediately! Instead, use statements like “I see how that would be frustrating for you” or “It makes sense that this situation would make me upset too.”
- Try seeing things from their perspective: In order for both parties involved in a disagreement/fight/argument/etc., there must be two perspectives present. Otherwise, there wouldn’t be any conflict at all! But sometimes we get so caught up in our own beliefs (and therefore our own side of things) that we forget about everyone else’s ideas & beliefs as well. Which leads us directly into…
Be willing to compromise.
Compromise is a sign of maturity and respect. It’s also a way to keep your relationship healthy, because it shows that you’re willing to give up something in order to make your partner happy.
Here are some examples of compromises:
- You want to watch Game of Thrones, but your partner is tired and wants to go to bed early. You can compromise by watching only one episode instead of the whole season (or maybe even just an episode) with him/her before heading off on your own adventure with Netflix or Hulu Plus!
- Your boyfriend likes playing video games with his friends every weekend while you would rather go out on dates together at restaurants or movies. So instead of spending all day Saturday playing Call Of Duty: Advanced Warfare online with his buddies from work, why not spend some quality time together doing something fun?
Use “I” statements instead of “you” when discussing an issue that bothers you and make sure you’re sharing your perspective.
When you are discussing an issue with your partner, it’s important to take note of what you’re saying. When we get upset with our partners, it’s easy for us to slip into using “you” statements when we talk about the problem. For example, if I’m feeling hurt because my girlfriend didn’t ask me before she made plans with her friends this weekend and now I can’t go away for our anniversary trip that we had been planning for months and really wanted to go on together. I might say something like this:
“You never consider what I want when making plans.”
Avoid criticizing, judging or criticizing
Avoid criticizing, judging or criticizing the other person’s feelings, thoughts and actions when having a disagreement. Instead, try expressing how something affects you or feels to you. For example:
- “I feel hurt when you say that.”
- “When I hear that comment from you it makes me feel angry because…”
Recognize that there are situations where you simply cannot come to an agreement and it may be more productive to agree to disagree than to continue arguing fruitlessly over an unimportant matter.
- When you’re in a relationship with someone else, it’s inevitable that you will disagree on some issues. You can’t always get what you want–and sometimes, it’s better to let go of the fight than continue arguing fruitlessly over an unimportant matter.
- Don’t try to change other people’s opinions. You might think your partner is wrong about something or has taken a stance on something that doesn’t make sense from your perspective (like being against same-sex marriage). However, if they’ve decided their position on this issue and are unwilling to budge from it, then there’s no point in trying to convince them otherwise; all that will do is cause tension between the two of you and lead nowhere productive.*
Communication is key in any relationship
Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. If you and your partner can’t communicate effectively, it’s likely that you’ll have some disagreements along the way. In fact, disagreements are normal in any relationship; they’re an inevitable part of life and love! However, if you want your relationship to last long-term and thrive overall then it’s important that both of you learn how to handle disagreements in a constructive way that doesn’t damage either party’s feelings or compromise their dignity (or yours).
Here are some tips:
- Be honest with each other–and yourself! Honesty is always best when dealing with conflicts between two people who care about each other; never hold back something because it might hurt someone else or cause them distress later on down the line when they find out what really happened during those moments where things got heated between both parties involved in this disagreement scenario.
If you want your relationship to last, then you need to be able to work together as a team. Communication is key in any relationship and disagreements are bound to happen. But by following these tips on how to handle them peacefully and respectfully, you can keep your love strong and healthy!
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