Don’t lose your spark to keep someone else shining

Don’t lose your spark to keep someone else shining

The only thing worse than being single is being in a relationship with someone who makes you feel like you’re not good enough. But what if that person is your partner? That’s exactly the question many people face when they’re dating or in a relationship where their spark is fading. It can be hard to recognize. But it can become glaringly obvious when you look back at how you felt before and after the relationship started. So here are some questions to ask yourself before losing your spark:

Who is your potential partner?

You may have found someone who is truly worth your time. But it’s important to remember that there are many factors that make a person compatible with you. You should ask yourself these questions:

What is their personality like? Do they treat you with respect and kindness, or do they treat others poorly? Are they trustworthy and honest in their dealings with others, or do they use people for their own gain without regard for others’ feelings or well-being (this will be especially important if/when you become pregnant).

What are your boundaries?

To be clear, this isn’t about your boundaries being defined by someone else’s expectations. You have to figure out what makes you happy, healthy and safe so that you can say no when someone doesn’t fit into that vision.

For example: Let’s say someone asks if they can borrow money from you and they’ve never repaid anyone before. Your first instinct might be “no,” but if it means keeping up with their lifestyle or making them feel bad about themselves by saying no. Then maybe it’s not worth it! (In this case, try asking them how much they need.)

What is the purpose of your relationship?

You may be wondering, “What is the purpose of my relationship?” Well, it’s simple: to make you happy.

There are many reasons why people enter into relationships and they can differ depending on the couple. For example, some couples have children together while others don’t have any children at all; some couples get married while others don’t. Some couples even live together without being married! Whatever your situation is. Whether it’s unique or common. It doesn’t matter because every person has their own goals for their life that might include marriage and having kids or just living on their own with no obligations whatsoever (and maybe one day adopting an adorable dog).

Once you’ve figured out what makes YOU happy then comes finding someone else who shares those same interests/goals as well so that both parties benefit from each other equally throughout time spent together instead of just taking advantage of each other like most relationships tend do nowadays due to lack of communication between partners beforehand before making commitments like getting married…or adopting puppies together.”

Sometimes it’s ok to be your own social butterfly instead of someone elses.

Sometimes it’s ok to be your own social butterfly instead of someone elses.

People who have been in the same situation as you know what it’s like to be the one on the outside looking in. Trying desperately to get invited over for dinner or drinks or whatever else people do these days. You’re not alone! But there are ways around this: sometimes. It’s better for everyone involved if you just become your own social butterfly and let them shine by themselves.

Conclusion

You should never lose your spark in order to keep someone else shining. If someone doesn’t value what makes you unique and special, then they don’t deserve your time or attention. If you find yourself feeling drained by another person’s constant need for attention or approval then maybe it’s time for some self-care!

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