Let me preface this by saying. This isn’t about dragging another woman for sport. But sometimes, we need to call things what they are, especially when certain personalities are being praised for behavior that’s actually harmful.
Watching Huda on Love Island has been frustrating, to say the least. And I’m not just talking about the cringe-inducing entitlement or the never-ending victim narrative she clings to. It’s deeper than that. It’s the way she embodies everything wrong with the faux empowerment culture. The kind that demands sympathy but avoids accountability.
Let’s unpack it.
1. The Insecurity Hidden Behind the Persona
Huda presents herself as confident, unbothered, and “that girl”. But underneath it all is an exhausting insecurity that shows up in every interaction. Whether it’s how she constantly needs validation from men or how threatened she becomes by any other woman shining, it’s clear she’s not as sure of herself as she wants the world to believe.
Confidence isn’t about dominating a conversation or making every man orbit you. It’s about knowing who you are, with or without attention. And let’s be honest. Huda hasn’t shown us that kind of growth.
2. The “Pick Me” in Empowerment Clothing
I hate to say it, but Huda has mastered the art of performative feminism. She talks a big game about self-love and respect. But only when it suits her. The moment things don’t go her way, she’s quick to make herself the victim and tear down the other girl in the room.
That’s not empowerment. That’s manipulation.
You can’t demand loyalty from your friends while enabling their problematic behavior, nor can you claim to stand for women while constantly competing with them or needing to “own” a man to feel worthy.
3. She Never Takes Accountability
This is the biggest issue.
Not once has Huda sincerely acknowledged her own behavior. She gaslights, deflects, and plays the sympathy card to dodge real conversations. Accountability isn’t an attack. It’s growth. And when viewers or even other islanders call her out, her defense mechanism is always the same: “People are jealous,” “I’m always misunderstood,” or “Why is everyone against me?”
Sis, they’re not against you. They’re just tired of the delusion.
4. Her Silence on Her Friends’ Racism Speaks Volumes
Let’s talk about the elephant in the room.
Huda’s silence on her fans racist comments is more than disappointing. It’s complicit. When you stand by people who degrade others and say nothing, you are part of the problem. And the fact that she’s been so loud about things that benefit her but silent when it comes to real issues says everything we need to know about her character.
Selective activism is not activism at all.
5. Victimhood as an Identity
Look, we’ve all had moments where we’ve been hurt, misunderstood, or misrepresented. But turning that into a personality trait? That’s what Huda has done. She clings to victimhood so tightly that any confrontation becomes an attack, and any feedback becomes bullying.
Her fanbase enables this behavior. They defend her poor choices as “protecting her peace” and call every critique “misogyny,” when in reality, she’s just not being held accountable.
6. What This Reflects About Society
The fact that women like Huda gain such loyal fanbases worries me. It shows how normalized toxic femininity has become. It’s not empowering to lie, gaslight, and manipulate under the guise of being a “bad b*tch.” Real empowerment is rooted in accountability, compassion, and self-awareness . None of which Huda has consistently shown.
Final Thoughts
Women like Huda aren’t hated because they’re confident. They’re criticized because their “confidence” is performative, inconsistent, and used as a shield to avoid growing up.
It’s not empowering to never self-reflect.
It’s not brave to turn every disagreement into an attack.
Lastly, it’s not real to only speak up when it benefits you.
We need to stop praising behavior that’s selfish, fake, and rooted in insecurity just because it comes in a pretty package. We deserve better representations of womanhood on screen…and off.
Let’s talk. Have you noticed the same patterns in reality TV or even in real life? Leave a comment or DM me. I’d love to hear your thoughts. And remember, real growth starts with honesty…not hashtags.
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